I am at the end of my rope and need advice. My DS is 15 months. He has always been a pretty crappy sleeper, difficult to get down, wakes very easily. Hasn't nursed to sleep since he was a newborn. Lately, though, our evening "routine" (for lack of a better term) is driving me batty. It takes more than an hour-- usually 1.5 or even 2-- to get him to bed. He's this weird combination of very tired and hyper/ keyed up. I don't know what's going on, I can't even remember when this started. Three weeks ago? A month ago? Half an hour to 45 minutes was more usual, before. The only way he'll go to sleep is with me laying down next to him, arms around him. He sleeps in our bed.
I think part of the problem is nursing. Used to be, I'd nurse him the usual amount/ length of time, then sing to him, then lay down together. Sometimes he'd pop back up, so we'd repeat the singing/ rocking/ laying down bit, but eventually he'd drop off. Now, he only nurses for maybe a minute, then pulls off (usually biting me first with his new teeth
) to crawl around the bed/ stand up and fall down/ climb the wall/ whatever. After awhile he'll start getting cranky, at which point I try to nurse him again (b/c he has GOT to be hungry, right?); repeat for ninety freaking minutes. Each time he nurses he gets more serious about it, but it's like 4-5 times. I have NO IDEA why this is happening.
Right now he's with his dad, screaming his head off, the equivelent of letting him CIO. It's after 9:00pm. I started putting him down at 7. I'm just so
at these so-called child-sleep gurus that insist that as long as you let your kid sleep in bed with you, you won't HAVE any sleep problems. I've read Sears, Gordon, Three in a Bed
, Our Babies, Ourselves
. SO MISLEADING. I seriously wish I'd just gotten him used to sleeping in a crib when he was tiny, so that he never knew anything else. My days and nights are ruled by his sleep or lack thereof.
Anyway, here are some other info bits that may be needed:
Our usual 'schedule' looks like this:
Up at 7:30am or so.
Morning nap from 10:00-11:00am
Lunch @ 12:00
Afternoon nap from 2-2:30 to 3-3:30pm.
Dinner @ 5pm-ish
Bedtime @ 7:00pm
He wakes up at the same time in the morning, regardless of any other factors. If we keep him up later, he still gets up at 7:30 but is grumpier.
Keeping him up later doesn't help: twice in the last week we kept him up till 9:00 just to see if it would help. Still took over an hour to put him down, and b/c he still got up usual time, just got less sleep.
Skipping his afternoon nap-- tried that twice (both times b/c he took an unsually long morning nap, once 1 hr 20 min, once 2 hours (but I slept with him)-- he went down a bit easier at bedtime but that last two hours of the day was simply hell to pay, not worth it.
He finally got his first teeth in about a month ago, at 14 months, four at once. His other top two incisors are coming through, but I can't see them making this much of an effect for this long.
Please, give me some suggestions for fixing this before I do some kind of remedial crate training or something.