Now that DD doesn't expect to nurse every time she wakes, DH has been able to help with the nighttime parenting. After a few nights he said he would be willing to sleep with DD throughout the night (essentially taking over ALL the nighttime parenting!), but that he can't handle the up and down anymore.
I must be crazy, because I didn't immediately jump his bones in gratitude. I'm starved for sleep, yet I can't give up the hope that this tortured odyssey will eventually lead to paradise. I'm afraid that if DH starts sleeping with her regularly, he'll undo any progress I've made. There's also the timing to consider. DH is a farmer, and while he can afford to be generous now, he'll need his full sleep again next spring. My due date, meanwhile, is April 5. On the other hand, I am beginning to doubt my ability to control a process that might just need to run its course. So what do I do now? Do I stick to my guns and hope DD starts sleeping longer stretches, or do I just accept DH's offer and enjoy my 8 hours until the new baby arrives?
Mama to P. born at home 10/09, and W. born in the hospital 2/13
Holly and David
Adaline (3/20/10), and Charlie (1/26/12- 4/10/12) and our identical twins Callie and Wendy (01/04/13)
DS (6.06), DD (10.08), DD (05.11).
I don't think it is unreasonable for a 13 month old to need someone to sleep with them at night.
Back to the OP - I weaned my son when I was pregnant but he continued to sleep with us full time until the very end of my pregnancy. Once I weaned him (day and night) he slept like a lot next to me. I'm sort of assuming that cosleeping just stopped working for you. But maybe that's not true and you can revisit that.
DS (6.06), DD (10.08), DD (05.11).
DD and DH still bedshare (DD just turned 5). For OUR family, that works. I don't have any particular need to bedshare with DH, he snores and I toss and turn. Even before kids we never did husband-wife stuff at night in bed anyway. I know other couples feel differently, but he and I don't care about sharing sleep. DH easily falls back to sleep (within seconds, really) if DD wakes him up for any reason. She likes his snoring (is comforted by it). I sleep soundly and toss and turn all I want. It works for us.
For another story, a family we know coslept all in one bed with their first son. They planned to continue when their second son was born, but she felt like she just wasn't getting the sleep she needed with everyone piled in. So her DH took their DS1 and slept in another room while she slept with the baby. As far as I know, that happened for a year and everyone was happy. I believe the DS1 is now in his own bed (completely his choice, they were really into not pushing that - though possibly that bed is in the same room as everyone else, not sure) and they cosleep with each other and DS2 now.
Homeschooling mama to 6 year old DD.
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