My girls and I co-sleep, mainly because we've done so from their births and now it's just habit. I'll be brutally honest here and say it's a habit I wish we could break... I miss sleeping in DH's bed, and the girls (now 5 and 3 years old) wake me up at least once a night. The problem is that both girls refuse to go to sleep unless I'm right there, laying down in the bed with them. I've tried just sitting on the edge of the bed until they drift off, or beside the bed... no dice. I refuse to let them CIO, which is what would happen if I played hardball and left them in the room by themselves.
The worst part is that my 5-yr-old has never gone to sleep willingly, so most nights I lay there for at least an hour, waiting on her to start snoozing. It usually creates a feeling of resentment in me (mainly because I want to get back up as soon as she's asleep and have some me time before bed, or spend time with DH, or whatever), and then she picks up on this frustration of mine (she's very sensitive to my feelings, even when I'm silent) and gets all upset about it, and then I have to console her, and there's another 15 minutes down the chute, plus I'm worried she's going to have a complex about sleep when she's older thanks to all this.
I've offered her her own bed now that's she's a big girl, and she flat-out refuses. "I want to be with you, Mommy!" she says. So I don't know what to do. Wasn't it Dr. Sears' wife who said that if you resent a situation, you have to change it? But I don't know how. That's why I'm posting here, I guess... to find out if any of you can clue me in on what to do next. Many thanks in advance if you can do just that!
Traditional Catholic, aspiring to everyday sanctity. Mama to two amazing girls. Wife to my best friend.