DS has bedshared with me since newborn (not quite birth though). Within the last year, he also will want to bedshare with DH (DH and I have had to sleep in separate rooms due to his sleep apnea). DH just got a dental appliance to help with his apnea, so I was thinking of trying a family bed for all of us soon. DH sleeps in a Queen, we would need to add a Twin to it to make it bigger for all of us.
I love bedsharing with DS and know he loves it too, even though he is a bedhog! He has to be smack dab against whoever is with him.
Issues:
-DH has a really hard time whenever DS sleeps with him, he loses sleep and gets very stiff from DS being a bedhog
-When the baby arrives, how would that work? I went to a McKenna conference and directly asked him about baby and sibling sleeping arrangement, he said to be on the safe side, always be between your older child and your baby. When DS was nursing regularly at night, I would always switch sides with him so I wouldn't get stiff myself and could face him. But how would this work with a baby? I cannot switch sides if DS is on the other side of me and I need to be able to switch. I cannot do the 'lean the boob down' thing as I tried that when DS was little and didn't work for me.
-If we do put the twin bed butted up to the queen, isn't there going to be a safety issue with the gap in between the two?
-is there a 'natural bedweaning age'? DS sleeps fine by himself at school/daycare/Grandma's
Do I have any options here? Thanks!
I love bedsharing with DS and know he loves it too, even though he is a bedhog! He has to be smack dab against whoever is with him.
Issues:
-DH has a really hard time whenever DS sleeps with him, he loses sleep and gets very stiff from DS being a bedhog
-When the baby arrives, how would that work? I went to a McKenna conference and directly asked him about baby and sibling sleeping arrangement, he said to be on the safe side, always be between your older child and your baby. When DS was nursing regularly at night, I would always switch sides with him so I wouldn't get stiff myself and could face him. But how would this work with a baby? I cannot switch sides if DS is on the other side of me and I need to be able to switch. I cannot do the 'lean the boob down' thing as I tried that when DS was little and didn't work for me.
-If we do put the twin bed butted up to the queen, isn't there going to be a safety issue with the gap in between the two?
-is there a 'natural bedweaning age'? DS sleeps fine by himself at school/daycare/Grandma's
Do I have any options here? Thanks!