The only problem with this system is that sometimes I have or want to do other things ~I have the chance to work very part-time and I love my job and would like to be able to go back like one evening a week or so, and DH is very good about taking his share of baby care. My MIL and SIL also come sometimes and love being with DS and I love getting a little break.
Whenever any of them are taking care of him, they usually have a hard time getting him down, and it often involves crying or sometimes outright screaming before he falls asleep. At first I thought they'd each find their own way with getting him down, but so far that hasn't exactly happened. He naps 3-4x a day so I can go out for very short times and leave him with DH/MIL/SIL only when he's awake, but practically this is a pain because I can't go to work or get anything else done.
They all do the same routine I do (rocking, lights down, singing or soft music), and they've also tried other things like lying down with him and/or having him sleep on them, all of which have some success. He will sleep while going on a walk in the carrier, but with winter coming this is not going to be practical anymore. Sometimes it helps if they give him a bottle w/breastmilk, but sometimes he refuses it unless it's for hunger feeding. He also refuses a paci.
Anyone else BTDT and have solutions, short of me being here for every single nap and bedtime for the next 2+ years? I realize the AP approach might say I should always be the one to put him to sleep and rarely if ever leave him, but he's a high-needs baby and I feel I deserve a break sometimes and don't see why I shouldn't take one when I have loving childcare from family available. I know some babies just need to fuss before falling asleep, and honestly that doesn't bother me so much as long as he's in the loving arms of someone, but when it's outright screaming that is what we want to avoid. Any ideas? TIA!
Mama since 2010
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Holly and David
Adaline (3/20/10), and Charlie (1/26/12- 4/10/12) and our identical twins Callie and Wendy (01/04/13)
So I guess if you can't solve the problem, maybe be comforted by the fact that your DC might stop in a few more months?
And don't feel guilty about this feeling. I think it is totally normal to feel a little frustrated that you are the only one who can get your baby to sleep. I love my son dearly but knowing that I will need to be home at bedtime for what feels like the rest of my life can be both isolating and terrifying (I 'm a WOHM, and though it's not likely, it's totally possible that I could be asked to take an overnight trip).
BTW, did you used to hang out in the TTC forum? Your name looks familiar. If so, can you believe how far we've come?!
Mumma to DS July 2010 and expecting another baby boy late July 2012
bedsharing, knitting, toddler-nursing, nerdy, babywearing mama!
Do your caregivers know about any soothing methods like the 5 s's? I know that really helped my husband learn to soothe the baby. I would also recommend a soothie style paci, something with a nipple, that could help with the sucking before sleep.
LO#2 can be put to sleep by anyone but it takes four times as long. DH now says how awesome nursing to sleep is...
I wonder if it's the same with breastfed and bottle fed babies... I sometimes think it's easier if you bottle feed a baby to get someone else besides mom to put her down to sleep as an infant. People tell me it's because I am creating a monster by nursing her to sleep. I just wonder if I do want to go out for a night without my baby (who is 8 months old) would my parents or DH or whoever is babysitting her be able to put her to sleep without me there to nurse? hmmmm.... When could that occur?
To the OP, this is baby#3, and I have always put my kids to bed by nursing, until they stop nursing, and the nightime is usually the last to go.
Sorry I don't have any suggestions for you, but good luck
Me and Dh , Dd1 Dd2,Ds1, 2, 2and lots of
So if he wasn't in his wrap when he fell asleep, I was stuck sitting with him for hours on end.
I can transfer him sleeping to the ergo or the stroller and keep him sleeping if I have to bug out, but he has to be moving after the transfer, most of the time.
Funnily enough, when DS2 was a newborn I could. not. get him to sleep! For the first two weeks of his life I ended up calling my Mum everyday to come over and get him to sleep because for some reason he'd fall asleep (and stay asleep) for her but not for me!