I cannot figure out the logistics of having 19mo DD in her own room. I try the monitor and it keeps us both up. Her room is across the house so she'd have to cry loudly to hear it without the monitor and I don't want that. I put up a gate and DD freaks if she sees it. Do you think she's old enough to come to our room on her own? Moving her to our room when she wakes up seems to wake her up more, so I end up sleeping on her floor. I don't seem to sleep as well with her not with me, but do you get used to it?
We really are fine if she stayed in our bed, but she without a doubt sleeps better in her own bed now. On weekends when we stay up late, she sleeps until we come to bed as late as 2am, but on weeknights she'll usually be up nursing as soon as I come in. It's 12:30 now and she's still out (DH is off tomorrow so we're up still). And she likes her room and gets in her bed on her own when she's tired.
I'm also ready to gently night wean. One night a couple months ago she was nursing non stop and I couldn't take it anymore, so I took her in her room and layed on her bed while she played. I fell asleep and woke up with her sleeping next to me! So I try to get her to sleep without nursing first, but the problem there's lots of sitting up, talking, maybe some whining, and it keeps DH up. I'm nursing her when she doesn't even need it just to keep her quiet, which I don't like. But in her room, she's taking really well to the nightweaning. Tonight for the first time I got her to go to sleep without nursing her to sleep (usually I can only do it during the night). She was nursing nursing nursing so I cut if off and sang and patted for an hour, but she eventually went to sleep.
Another option is to wait until DH is off at Christmas and let DH handle the nightweaning and keep her in our bed. The dentist said she's about to break through on her first 2yr molar, so I know sleep is going to go out the window for a while. Maybe she'll start sleeping better with just the nightweaning? ANd my LLL leader was telling me that if they're only nursing to sleep, once you night wean, they generally wean on their own soon after. I'd really like to make it through the winter.
Ah! I don't know what to do!