Any tips for improving this situation? I don't mind staying nearby if he'll fall asleep in a reasonable amount of time (10-15 minutes). Ideally, I'd like to be able to kiss him goodnight and go downstairs and spend time with DH, knowing that DS will go to sleep on his own.
Our current evening/bedtime routine is bath at 7pm or so, spending time with Daddy, and then 8pm he comes upstairs to brush teeth, go to the bathroom, read a story to me, I read a story to him, lights out and a few lullabies with me lying in bed with him, and then I kiss him goodnight and sit by the door, surfing on my iPad while I wait for him to go to sleep. He's never really had a lovey, but he does get to choose which stuffed toy he wants to hold in bed.
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Thank you for this thread. It sounds like your child is going through something. Has he started kindergarten recently? I would give in with a little TLC and then gently back off again as he gets through it. Wow, I should listen to my own advice. My daughter just started preschool and may be dealing with that herself.
My daughter is 3.5 and she fully weaned just a few months ago. She is no longer napping, which initially helped in getting her to sleep in a shorter period of time when I was still nursing her to sleep, but now it is quite difficult. Most nights I lie in the bed with her until we both fall asleep (often up to an hour). It is driving me insane. I am desperately trying to find a way for me to exit the room and come back to check on her but my spirited daughter is not having it.
So, I like the books idea, but how do you allow them to read books with the light on and be able to get to sleep? Do I need a smaller lamp for reading time? Or is it that you just give them 10 minutes to read on their own before lights out? I can't imagine my daughter falling asleep with the lights on (or without me there for that matter). I wouldn't mind laying with her if I knew it would be 20 minutes or less.
I have also thought of initiating a routine "special time" with Mommy, but haven't yet. I think that may help to make something besides bedtime her special time with Mommy. Especially if the preschool separation for us seems to be a factor.