Earlier in the year we did a thread asking mothers how many TOTAL months they've breastfeed and the response was amazing! So many mamas with so many months - years! - of breastfeeding to their credit!
So, that got me to thinking about how many months I have shared sleep with my children in our family bed. I've shared sleep with my kids over the past 264 months!
I'd love to find out how many months of cosleeping our community has accomplished to date. We'll run this thread through the month of December and see what total we get at the end of the year.
Do tell! How many total months have coslept?
Counting the months chronologically, that's 94 months.
Counting each child separately (though I don't know how, we are all tangled up!) that is:
DD1: 94 months
DD2: 75 months
For a grand total of 169 months, and counting.
"Let me see you stripped down to the bone. Let me hear you speaking just for me."
My numbers aren't that high. I found that I couldn't bedshare in the later months of pregnancy, and never had more than one of my kids in bed at a time - too crowded and it had too much impact on our (me and dh) sleep patterns. But:
DS1: 14 months
DD1: 23 months (roughly - not sure, but that's close)
DS2: 24 months, almost exactly
DD2: 27 months.
DD2 is an approximation, because we moved her out of our bed about that age, but she spent about half the night with us for several months after that.
So, 88 months rough total.
DD1 shouldn't have been with us as long as she was. She slept better on her own, even though I hated to admit it.
ETA: We also might have gone longer with some of the younger ones, if I didn't already have ds1. I'm more than willing to take other activities out of the bedroom...but that's a lot more complicated when there's a teenager around, yk?
Lisa, lucky mama of Kelly (3/93) , Emma (5/03) , Evan (7/05) , & Jenna (6/09)
Loving my amazing dh, James & forever missing Aaron Ambrose (11/07)
This one's a bit trickier than the BFing one...
Ds1 wasn't brought to bed with me until one extremely desperate night around 3mos old but then never went back into the crib. He got his own bed around age 3 but would end up in my bed at some point in the night. When he was 4yo I got married (not his biodad) and so he got his own room and stayed there for the 3yrs of my marriage. At age 7 he spent a lot of time co-sleeping due to being upset abt exdh leaving and bc I was pg w/ds2 and ds1 needed to top-up on mommy-time. But then when ds2 came aong, ds1 didn't want to crowd into a queen sized bed with us, so he was in his own bed full time again. Ds2 slept with me consistantly until age 4.5yrs, then went to his own bed, then a few years later his mental problems got much worse (bad sleep disturbances and funky body clock) and now I wake up to find him in my bed much more often than I would like...and since he's 10yo now, I pretty much would not ever like him in my bed anymore.
So...I would go insane trying to calculate months, but Ican say it's been the better part of 18yrs that I've had at least one little person next to me.
Mother of two spectacular girls, born mid-2010 and late 2012
110.5 plus 45.5 = 156 glorious months of bedsharing! In all honesty though, I'm not sure if I should count the last 3 months or so. We've been putting them to sleep in their room, but they are almost always in ours before I'm asleep, often before I go to bed. I have to admit that I'm kind of enjoying being able to lie in bed and read before they come in. If anything, having them in their own room has made, uh, intimacy more of a long shot. We never had to worry about them getting up in the middle of the night to come into their own room.
Jayne, sewing up a storm mama to ds1 9/03, ds2 2/09, and 2 sweet furbabies.
64 months since ds entered our lives and dd's 1 and 2 were no less interested in snuggling with us!
dd2 is always with us with at least one other that turns up halfway through the night!
I really wouldn't have it any other way
DD1- 54 months
DD2- 27 months
Although, the last 27 months both girls have been in our bed.... so, in reality we have only been co-sleeping for 54 months. We are due with #3 in Feb. and he will join our family bed!
SAHM to Chloe«- 6/2008 (10 lbs, 5 oz), Hannah- 9/2010 (9 lbs, 12 oz), Liam- 2/2013 (9 lbs, 6 oz)
36 months and counting. While I love co-sleeping, I do look forward to the day we can finally move into a bigger apartment and my daughter can have her own room. Knowing her she'll still want to sleep with us though. I'm fine with it and will enjoy it, but it'll be nice to have the bed for ourselves even just a couple of hours a night.
147 months total.
147 months for ds1 (I doubt he'll ever leave!)
30 months for dd1
49 months for dd2 ( I originally typed 149. She is only 5! Clearly a mistake!)
33 months for dd3
I counted bedsharing as when they start and end the night in my bed. If they have their own bed and start in their own bed but join me every night at 1am that doesn't count.
Me. With 1 spouse, 4 kids, 16 chickens, 74 matchbox cars, 968,562+ legos, a dishwasher waiting to be emptied, a washing machine waiting to be filled and a lost cup of tea in the house.
30 months with DD and then she moved to her own bed in our room for 8 months. Now she is in her own room.
She, and we, slept better with her in her own bed in our room where we could crawl in with her if she needed a cuddle. She is the type to sleep ALL.OVER.THE.PLACE
And 2 weeks so far with our 2 week old twin boys.
Me 40 . Partner to mamacolleen 33 . DD born July 2009 . Twin boys born Nov 2012.
We are a family that loves
Since my oldest was 3 months old, and he just turned 11 a month ago. So... 130 months. Wow! Currently there are 4 of us in the bed; me and dh, our 3yo and our 6 week old. I guess I have about another 36 months of full time co-sleeping ahead of me.
My only child is 2 and 1/2 and we still enjoy co-sleeping and nursing. I love it. However, reading that some people co-sleep till age 7 has me a bit nervous. However, if you had asked me 3 years ago if I would be co-sleeping for this long I would have thought you were crazy just to ask. So, won't know till I get there - but we love it now!