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#1 of 4 Old 12-11-2012, 02:41 PM - Thread Starter
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My older son is almost 4, and the baby is 2 days old. I have a double bed, and we do all fit(just mama and the babies) but I'm feeling a bit nervous at night and having trouble falling asleep. I've been sleeping in the middle of the kids, with the baby on the side that is pushed against the wall. No heavy bedding or pillows, and my older son has been surprisingly good about not moving around at night and staying in his spot. It's just nerves making it tough to fall asleep. I have a co-sleeper that goes in the bed(summer infant) but it is really big and doesn't seem sturdy, it makes me more nervous than going without.


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#2 of 4 Old 12-11-2012, 04:20 PM
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Once we had our second baby I was nervous too.  I think that I am so used to sleeping with a 4 year old that a newborn seemed so tiny to me and I had to remember all the sleeping rules again.  I definitely sleep in between my kids.  I would not trust the two of them next to each other, so it seems that you are doing fine.  Does the sleeping pad that you are looking at different than sleeping next to the wall?

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I don't have a second child yet, but I wanted to recommend a product we used with my DS when he was an infant - Snuggle Me Cushion. We put it right in the bed with us and I could easily lift him in and out to nurse during the night. It also wasn't too big. I highly recommend it. Here's the link:

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I bedshare with my almost 4 yr old and my 11 week old and have since this new one was born. We have a ton of space though. We have a king sized bed and have a crib sidecarred to my side. I often try and move the baby to the crib - she stays there for the better part of the night. But she is still only maybe 6 inches from me. When she is in bed nursing or in the morning when I stop moving her to the crib, she is either right on the edge, which is nice bc she can't fall off - only into the crib. Or she is next to my older DD. I often ask DH to move DD1 closer to him to give us more space. But sometimes I don't bother. I just keep my bottom arm sort of wrapped around the baby's head to protect her from her big sister. So far it's been fine. I worry about it less now that the baby is getting bigger. I think putting that bolster in the middle is a good solution. Also, consider getting a cheap crib to sidecar. 


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