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#1 of 8 Old 01-02-2013, 08:18 AM - Thread Starter
 
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My baby is 4 wks old. She left in a crib next my bed the first wk, then she wouldn't go to sleep easy. My bf took care of her mostly and handed me her when she needed to eat (had a c section and breastfeeding) .. She does not like to be swaddled at all. Now it's getting tough for her to just go to bed easy without being held till she's out and sometimes as soon as I put her down she wakes up. Any ideas what to do?
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Is it possible to co-sleep with her? Some babies sleep well independently and some just like the closeness of their parents. Don't know if you have considered this in the past.
 


 
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I tried not co-sleeping with my first baby, and I just wasn't getting any sleep that way. For our family, the best way to actually get some rest was to have the baby sleep in bed with us.


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It was impossible to set down my DD under any circumstances as a newborn. Thankfully we had already planned to co-sleep.  It does get better, around 6 months was when this LO was able to be put down in her own bed.


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It will get better! I know you said swaddling doesn't work, but try maybe even wrapping around LO's middle. My DD likes a blanket around her but wants a hand free. Try white noise. Download an app. This kept our DD asleep when put down the first 3 months. I started using white noise at a pretty loud volume until she fell asleep and then turned it down. I've read you should hold it right next to their heads, but I didn't like that idea. I put it at a distance really loud. Then when she fell asleep I turned it down and she would stay asleep. Her fav noise is the hair dryer smile.gif.
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I suggwst cosleeping as well.wedidnt get any sleep until one night I thought maybe she'd like to be inbed with me and boom e both slept like rocks. My LO is almost three months and I couldn't be able to do it without cosleeping. My LO doesnt like to be swaddled either so I just hug and hold her whens shes upset. Somenighs I have to let her sleep a while on my chest before shell lay by herself next to me. Other nights she will bf in the laying down position until she drifts then unlatch. Ive just learned to go with the flow and do what works best for her and gets us both the most sleep smile.gif good luck!
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I suggwst cosleeping as well.wedidnt get any sleep until one night I thought maybe she'd like to be inbed with me and boom e both slept like rocks. My LO is almost three months and I couldn't be able to do it without cosleeping. My LO doesnt like to be swaddled either so I just hug and hold her whens shes upset. Somenighs I have to let her sleep a while on my chest before shell lay by herself next to me. Other nights she will bf in the laying down position until she drifts then unlatch. Ive just learned to go with the flow and do what works best for her and gets us both the most sleep smile.gif good luck!
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You may like this site about co-sleeping:

http://cosleeping.nd.edu/

 

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