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#1 of 5 Old 03-17-2013, 07:03 AM - Thread Starter
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My daughter will be 19 months old when this baby comes. Currently she's very attached at night, latched on most of the night and probably wouldn't sleep more than an hour if left by herself.


I wouldn't have a problem continuing but with the new baby I'm going to have to be attached to the newborn at night.


Daddy doesn't want to stop cosleeping with her. I can't even imagine how this is going to work out and I'm really nervous. No idea that I've come up with sounds feasible. 


Surely others have been in this situation and have an answer?


ETA: I guess what I'm saying is I need to night wean her but I can't begin to imagine that she's going to go along with that.

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I am in a similar situation--I have a 23 m.o. and am expecting baby #2 in September. DS used to be latched on almost all night, too, and we did (mostly) night wean him. The first few nights were rough, but he now sleeps through from about 7:30pm until 4 or 5am! After that, he is latched on almost continuously until we get up around 7, so we need to work on that. 


The night weaning isn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be. He cried a lot for the first 2-3 nights, but I held him and kept reminding him that we would nurse in the morning. Anyway, I know it seems like a daunting task when you haven't done it yet, but once you get through it, you will be glad you did. 


Hope this helps!

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Have you checked out Elizabeth Pantley's website or books (No-Cry Sleep Solution)?  She also has a FB page.  She has wonderful advice (in my opinion) on this subject.  May worth checking out.. :)

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I went through a similar situation a few months back. My cosleeping DD was 19 months when I weaned her completely, and i was about 4 months pregnant with my second. We started with weaning at night first, by having a water bottle in the bed or beside the bed and when she woke up my DH would give it to her, explaining that mama couldn't breastfeed at night anymore and talking to her as well as comforting her without the breast. This along with him putting her down at night was a real help.
I am not sure if you are planning to tandem nurse, but for me it was important to have a break from breast feeding for both me and dd to adjust before the new baby comes and I will be breast feeding on demand again. When we finally weaned completely it was during the Christmas holidays when our schedule was all over the place and we were staying with family. Everything was already out of the normal routine and so stopping breast feeding seemed to fit easily into this temporary schedule. It went very well, for both of us. My dd has since continued to wake up to drink water at night (and is still cosleeping but in her own bed beside ours) and seems to be comforted by drinking cows or almond milk from a baby bottle (which she never used as a baby!).
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mine was two when I had his sister and very attached at night (same thing, nursing at night and sleeping attached) and while we read books and talked about how I was going to have to nurse baby at night instead and kept a sippy of water in bed that we offered nothing really worked. The night I was in labor was tough as he would not sleep and was crying/sad with daddy all night. That is until I had the baby (he came down to watch) and then he went and napped with daddy. He didn't nurse much the first day/night as he would wake up and go to me, see the baby, then cuddle with daddy instead. After a few days he asked to nurse at night again but would kinda hang over me, nurse for a bit and then go back to sleep by daddy. So it can all work out :) sorry, nak 

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