Hi there again,
Firstly OP, I've just reread your post and honestly think you are fabulous as you have two other children as well.
Hi Momma Michael, goodness your comment about the difficulties with weddings and nap times and bed really resonates with me. I find the social pressure/awkwardness then of having to explain why I can't just stay the day and night really isolating at times. My son would roar the house down of he didn't have mummy/boobie for sleep. And because of this, like you, I've only left him for a maximum of 2 and a half hours so far with either my mum or my husband. In my head, I'm respecting my son's needs/wishes as much as I practically can here because he does need me for sleep and calls "mama" a lot whenever i do need to leave him. Currently, I'm just his EVERYTHING/security I suppose. And he's a sensitive soul. I don't think I'm doing any of this for my own immediate benefit, but I do hope your bond will help us stay connected in the future and ease us a little more through the tougher developmental stages. But honestly, I do what I do because I feel it's what he needs right now. I'm sure my in-laws and a lot of friends might comment that he's "too attached at the hip" like you mentioned. It's not easy in our culture that values independence so much!
Thanks for the rant ladies! ;-)