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#1 of 3 Old 04-04-2013, 07:22 AM - Thread Starter
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I'm getting worn out at the fact that DS doesn't sleep all night most of the time. Never has. He's 4 and sleeps in his own bed. We do a relaxing routine at night, warm milk and honey, brush teeth, lavender essential oils, water at this bedside in case he wakes up thirsty, potty break, 30 minutes of reading before bed.. Everything the experts say to do to ensure good sleep. Just recently started working on pushing his bedtime earlier to help ensure more restful sleep. We even put a white noise machine in there. He wakes almost nightly coming into our room saying he's thirsty, hungry or wants to be tucked in again. We finally made a compromise with him that he must go to sleep in his room but if he wakes he can come in our room and sleep on a pallet on the floor. This worked okay for awhile, but now he comes I. There and whines at us that there aren't enough covers, or that he's hungry or wants to be tucked in I. The floor. DH and I both have a hard time getting back to sleep if we're woken up and especially if we have to get out if bed.. Even for a few minutes. DH is also not great at the whole nighttime parenting thing. He just gets frustrated that he's not sleeping and ends up yelling at DS. We've tried so many things to get him to stay asleep all night and it rarely happens. Last night I told him that if he wakes us in the middle of the night again no iPod or tv the next day. He ended up going out to the couch to sleep after keeping us and his sister up for a couple hours. I ended up taking DD back to our room to go to sleep because DS kept coming in her room whining and crying at me while I was trying to get her back to sleep. I am pretty sure he's just making up excuses as to why he can't get back to sleep. I know what he'd probably like is if one of us would just lay down with him when he wakes in the middle of the night. I'm sure that would eliminate him asking for food and drinks and making up all sorts of reasons to keep us up. I told DH that the only thing we haven't tried is bringing him back to his room when he wakes and keep doing it over and over until he gets the idea. DH isn't willing to do the work that this involves. I'd try that if I knew he'd sacrifice sleep with me to make it happen, buy logistically I can't tend to a tired toddler and a 4 year old at the same time, so I need his help. Urg. Thoughts on what to do?? I just need to have a conversation with DH about how to fix this but not sure what to say.

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Bumping up. Hopefully others have some suggestions for you mama--sounds exhausting.  Have you read anything by Dr. Jay Gordon? He has some good suggestions on sleep issues. 

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My DD is younger but I think bringing him back to his room is the way to go. I wonder if you could get some kind of gadget that would help, like his own alarm clock (if he can read numbers) and say he needs to stay in his room until the first number is an 8 or something. Or they have these colour changing alarm clocks, so when it goes green (or whatever colour) he can come out of his room and wake you up. Something like this maybe:


Perhaps some mellow things to do would help occupy him in the night or early morning till he can fall asleep, like a couple of books or toys to play with? A couple of special things that you don't put by his bedside until he's asleep?

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