I didn't want to do take away both mommy and milk do I decided to start with the crib. He was starting out in the crib until I went to bed so he is used to it. I put an air mattress in his room for me to sleep on so that when he wakes I'm near by. I don't want him fully awake by the time I hear him because I know this will make it harder for me to put him back to sleep.
So for 3 nights now I have nursed him back to sleep when he wakes. If he wakes up immediately (or within minutes) of me putting him down after nursing, I shush, rock, pat, sing him back to sleep. This has become a bit easier over the last three nights. Last night though he was still waking every two hours. I have also brought him down on the airmattress with me at around 5am to nurse as he will sleep until 7am.
So my question is, what the heck am I doing?!?! Lol. I guess my goal is to get him used to sleeping in the crib(I think he's okay with that) and then cut back on night wakings. I feel like him falling to sleep without nursing is key and by getting him to sleep in ways that don't involve nursing, I'm starting towards this. Last night was definitely a bit easier in that respect.
Does anyone have any recommendations? Suggestion? Logical next steps? Man, I just need some sleep. Oh, and Dr. Gordon's sleep ideas seem so much more harder to me than this because he associates laying down with nursing and I am so tired I don't have the patience for hours of crying, trying to crawl off my bed, etc. that I envision with using his plan. There have been very few tears the past three nights.
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The only thing that helps my son is a pacifier. Probably not what you want to start at 20 months, but I found it really helped him with "self soothing". We were still bedsharing and I'd give it 5-10 seconds when he woke up to see if he was just stirring or really wanted to eat... I found he would mostly just locate his pacifier and fall back asleep.
Now he starts off in our bed, I put him in his crib next to our bed and I'm finding more and more often I don't get woken up at night for him wanting to come back. The next step is going to be inching the crib over to his room.