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#1 of 7 Old 04-26-2013, 07:40 PM - Thread Starter
 
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my daughter is 16.5 months old and is quite independent in the sleep department. I night-weaned her at 12 months and she hardly seemed to notice. she falls asleep on her own; assistance of any kind only seems to annoy or stimulate her. she does however need someone to stay with her until she falls asleep. this is mainly because our family bed consists of two floor futons. that's where I come in. I (or occasionally dh) sit (or lie down) and act as a human guardrail as she rolls around until she conks out. at least that's how it had been going until recently. lately she's been too wound up both at naptime and bedtime. instead of just rolling around she tries to practically run off the bed. I don't let her leave but it's all a game to her and she laughs hysterically every time I lay her back down. it takes well over half an hour to get her to sleep, and sometimes much longer. it's frustrating and since I'm 36 weeks pregnant it's physically exhausting too. she typically goes to bed around 8-8:30pm. any earlier and she's up way too early; any later and dh and I get zero time together. (he usually goes to bed by 10pm.) her bedtime routine is dinner, bath, nurse, brush teeth, story, kiss papa (or occasionally mama) goodnight, and off to bed. I doubt I'll have the ability to do this after the baby is born. ” delegate to dh” isn't a real option because he's only home in time for bedtime about half the time. any ideas?
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'this is going to sound crazy, but the only option I could think of (other than a crib), is one of those huge fence-like contraptions.  We had one that we used to block off areas that weren't safe- or you can connect it so it's like a gigantic play-yard.  Maybe you could surround the futons with this?  

 

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What else do you have in the room?  Do you think she'd eventually calm down and fall asleep if you left her in the room by herself?  If there's a lot of other stuff in the room that she can get into, that's probably not the best idea.  You might also consider a change in her night-time routine.  Maybe she needs some extra wind-down time, or maybe her naptime is running too close to bedtime these days?

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What about taking her outside for some cool fresh air? My son is 2 years old and starting to sloowly wean himself off naps. The other day, after waking up at 9 am, and going alll day and evening, he started showing signs of wanting to go to bed, but was so wound up he couldn't get his body to shut down. So I took him outside, he looked for the stars(he loves the stars and the moon), couldn't find any, wanted back inside, and with a nurse pretty much fell straight to sleep.

 

Perhaps going outside for a bed before bed time would help her body relax?

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lol I think that's a little too much for me. I know that cribs are generally anti-AP but I've gotta admit that I think they have their place for certain babies and situations. In hindsight i think my daughter would have transitioned pretty easily and happily to a crib when bedtime was much easier. but then again I couldn't have known that we would be having this issue now...
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Around that age we went from a bed on the floor back into the crib for my DD.  When she wakes up in the night she goes back to sleep on the bed on the floor, but for nap and 8 pm bedtime, it's in the crib.  She's happy with it and falls asleep better.

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lol I think that's a little too much for me. I know that cribs are generally anti-AP but I've gotta admit that I think they have their place for certain babies and situations. In hindsight i think my daughter would have transitioned pretty easily and happily to a crib when bedtime was much easier. but then again I couldn't have known that we would be having this issue now...

We had pretty much the identical situation here. We co-slep and used a floor bed and this worked fine right until Ds turned 15 months old. Now we use a Crib...gasp! BUT he likes it. He needs his own wind down time and the crib allows him to safely do that. We do not let him cry in it, EVER but 6 out of 7 nights he will happily talk to himself for 5-10 minutes before falling asleep. If he wakes in the night, he wil often come into our bed to sleep and we are fine with that. Best wishes!


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