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Mine are 4.5 y/o (twin boys) and they still get up repeatedly at night. They start out in their own beds and migrate to sleeping bags on my bedroom floor. Sleeping with twin 4.5 year old boys is an exercise in physical brutality; I don't recommend it. I'm also on the fence now about bed-sharing because, at almost five years since their birth I am now so sleep deprived that my thyroid has begun to disfunction and my body has stopped producing enough vitamin D and I'm constantly exhausted (a vicious cycle with sleep deprivation) no matter how much sun I get. This is where AP kind of breaks down for me because there's no good solution for setting the appropriate gentle but effective nighttime boundaries so everyone gets enough sleep. It's either a family bed (which doesn't always work) or nothing. CIO is cruel but, at this point, I almost wish we had gone that way because bed sharing is wrecking my health.

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Mine are 4.5 y/o (twin boys) and they still get up repeatedly at night. They start out in their own beds and migrate to sleeping bags on my bedroom floor. Sleeping with twin 4.5 year old boys is an exercise in physical brutality; I don't recommend it. I'm also on the fence now about bed-sharing because, at almost five years since their birth I am now so sleep deprived that my thyroid has begun to disfunction and my body has stopped producing enough vitamin D and I'm constantly exhausted (a vicious cycle with sleep deprivation) no matter how much sun I get. This is where AP kind of breaks down for me because there's no good solution for setting the appropriate gentle but effective nighttime boundaries so everyone gets enough sleep. It's either a family bed (which doesn't always work) or nothing. CIO is cruel but, at this point, I almost wish we had gone that way because bed sharing is wrecking my health.

 

This brings up a good point and something I've wondered about co-sleeping.  I didn't mind the idea of co-sleeping with my daughter, but after only a couple of days I had to stop.  After I had my daughter I was so exhausted, I didn't know it at the time but I had an fibromylgia.  I developed severe sleep problems, so bad I was missing days from work.  I wasn't diagnosed with these conditions until years later (after going to doctor after doctor).

 

I'm not saying co-sleeping caused my fibro or sleep problems, just that my health issues made it where I was physically unable to sleep with my baby anymore.  It was hard enough trying to sleep by myself, every time she sneezed or moved it would wake me up and I couldn't get back to sleep for hours.

 

How do those of you who co-sleep deal with the lack of sleep?  Or are you just able to fall back asleep easily?

 

And something else I've always wondered:  if your baby is always sleeping with you, WHEN do you have sex???


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My bed sharing EBF son started sleeping in 5 hour stretches at about 5 weeks and has been sleeping more at night since then. He's 11 weeks old. We keep blinds open all day, dim the house at night and try to make sure he's not over tired at bed time (I let him nap as he needs but try to get him to at least cat nap if he has been awake for more than 2 hours). It's not a real "method," and after seeing my nephews and nieces develop, I kinda think some kids just are natural long sleepers and some have a harder time with sleep. I don't feel like I did anything to make him sleep well, he kinda just came that way. I wish I had something better to offer; but I don't think where one sleeps is always a main player. Best of luck!

This is true to some extent for me. Although i have to wonder about my third child, who still wakes at night. She is 20mths. I do think having her routine interrupted because, well, she's a third child,  has impacted her sleep.   However, on the whole,  she is a good sleeper, she just wakes up  once or twice during the night to nurse. Usually its at about 1am, and then 4/5am.  She   really only nurses once at night, if you dont count the 4/5am feed. Im inclined not to count that anyway. She also goes to bed earlier than my older children did at her age-we have to get boys to school! But when they were babies, we were going to bed at 10ish at night. Now its 8ish. So obviously she is going to want to nurse earlier, and wake up earlier.

 

She's actually slept all the way through until 5 once or twice recently. Boy did i feel good!

 

I dont think co sleeping has anything to do with nightwaking. If dd were in a crib in another room, she would just wake up at the same time crying(and probably very angry), and if i didnt go to  her, i call that CIO. If she is in my bed, it makes it easier for me.

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Mine are 4.5 y/o (twin boys) and they still get up repeatedly at night. They start out in their own beds and migrate to sleeping bags on my bedroom floor.

 

Maybe they are not ready to be on their own-wouldnt it be easier if they just started out in your room? Its all i know, so just sharing my experience. 

 

Sleeping with twin 4.5 year old boys is an exercise in physical brutality;

 

It does sound hard for you. I am still co sleeping with my 8 and 5 yo. (mentioned above thread  as babies who slept through the night early on) They sleep well all night long, never had a problem with them. I think it depends on the child. 

 

I don't recommend it. I'm also on the fence now about bed-sharing because, at almost five years since their birth I am now so sleep deprived that my thyroid has begun to disfunction and my body has stopped producing enough vitamin D and I'm constantly exhausted (a vicious cycle with sleep deprivation) no matter how much sun I get. This is where AP kind of breaks down for me because there's no good solution for setting the appropriate gentle but effective nighttime boundaries so everyone gets enough sleep. It's either a family bed (which doesn't always work) or nothing. CIO is cruel but, at this point, I almost wish we had gone that way because bed sharing is wrecking my health.

 

You have to find a solution for your family. Its not un AP for older kids to have their own beds.  But if they arent ready, then its counterproductive for everyone.

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I think that kids have their own timetable. That said, my daughter is one who was probably capable and would have benefitted from separate sleeping space at a younger age. There was a little hump to get over, but then she took to it very well and began sleeping better than ever. So sometimes it's worth experimenting to see what kind of kid you have. In our case, I felt that I had hindered her a little from getting the best sleep she could have. But she is fine, healthy and growing so in the end it's no big deal.

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How do those of you who co-sleep deal with the lack of sleep?  Or are you just able to fall back asleep easily?

 

Co-sleeping helped me get more sleep.  When DD was a newborn, I tried to put her to sleep in her bassinet as much as possible, but then when she was about 3 months she stopped staying asleep for any length of time if she was alone.  I started co-sleeping full time out of desperation and soon found that meant a lot more sleep for me.  When DD woke up at night I didn't have to get up out of bed and I didn't have to wait until she was in a good, sound sleep before putting her down again, so the time I spent awake was a lot shorter.  And once we both really got the hang of side-lying nursing, I didn't even have to stay fully awake while she was nursing.  She was a horrible sleeper, rarely sleeping more than 2 hours at a stretch even by the time she was 1, but once we were co-sleeping my sleep deprivation went away.  Despite all the night wakings, I felt like I was getting enough sleep.  I'm sure it helped that I had always been a good sleeper and it wasn't hard for me to fall back to sleep.  (It was hard before I was co-sleeping, though.  I had so much anxiety over not knowing when I'd have to wake up again and felt so much pressure to fall asleep right away so I could get as much sleep as possible that I'd often have a really hard time falling asleep even though I was exhausted.)  Co-sleeping worked out so well with DD that I just went straight to full-time co-sleeping with DS when he was born.  I don't remember ever feeling sleep deprived when he was a newborn.

 

When DD was a baby and toddler, I experimented at various times with having her sleep somewhere other than right next to me, and she never slept better that way.  She always woke up more often.  Even as a 5 year old, and older, after she had been used to sleeping in her own bed for years, she always fell asleep more quickly and slept more soundly when she was in bed with me.

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Co-sleeping helped me get more sleep.  When DD was a newborn, I tried to put her to sleep in her bassinet as much as possible, but then when she was about 3 months she stopped staying asleep for any length of time if she was alone.  I started co-sleeping full time out of desperation and soon found that meant a lot more sleep for me.  When DD woke up at night I didn't have to get up out of bed and I didn't have to wait until she was in a good, sound sleep before putting her down again, so the time I spent awake was a lot shorter.  And once we both really got the hang of side-lying nursing, I didn't even have to stay fully awake while she was nursing.  She was a horrible sleeper, rarely sleeping more than 2 hours at a stretch even by the time she was 1, but once we were co-sleeping my sleep deprivation went away.  Despite all the night wakings, I felt like I was getting enough sleep.  I'm sure it helped that I had always been a good sleeper and it wasn't hard for me to fall back to sleep.  (It was hard before I was co-sleeping, though.  I had so much anxiety over not knowing when I'd have to wake up again and felt so much pressure to fall asleep right away so I could get as much sleep as possible that I'd often have a really hard time falling asleep even though I was exhausted.)  Co-sleeping worked out so well with DD that I just went straight to full-time co-sleeping with DS when he was born.  I don't remember ever feeling sleep deprived when he was a newborn.

 

When DD was a baby and toddler, I experimented at various times with having her sleep somewhere other than right next to me, and she never slept better that way.  She always woke up more often.  Even as a 5 year old, and older, after she had been used to sleeping in her own bed for years, she always fell asleep more quickly and slept more soundly when she was in bed with me.


Yeah, I could see how in some situations co-sleeping would help you get more sleep, i.e. not having to get up to nurse or feed.  But it just didn't work in my situation.  When my youngest was a toddler I'd let her sleep with me from time to time, but I had to stop that as well.  If she kicked me even once it would wake me up and ruin my sleep for the night. 

 

It's too bad because I do miss the feeling of closeness it gave me to my children.


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Mine are 4.5 y/o (twin boys) and they still get up repeatedly at night. They start out in their own beds and migrate to sleeping bags on my bedroom floor. Sleeping with twin 4.5 year old boys is an exercise in physical brutality; I don't recommend it. I'm also on the fence now about bed-sharing because, at almost five years since their birth I am now so sleep deprived that my thyroid has begun to disfunction and my body has stopped producing enough vitamin D and I'm constantly exhausted (a vicious cycle with sleep deprivation) no matter how much sun I get. This is where AP kind of breaks down for me because there's no good solution for setting the appropriate gentle but effective nighttime boundaries so everyone gets enough sleep. It's either a family bed (which doesn't always work) or nothing. CIO is cruel but, at this point, I almost wish we had gone that way because bed sharing is wrecking my health.

Anyone who tells you that "AP" is about a mother who self-sacrifices to the point of physical and mental dysfunction is wrong and has no business giving advice!  There ARE ways to set appropriate boundaries and at 4.5 your kids are able to understand that "mama needs sleep".  I see that you are a new member -- may I make a suggestion?  Post a thread that asks for suggestions on setting boundaries for sleep with an older child. Because, really, at 4.5 there are many, many other options outside of CIO and mama being brutalized all night long. To me, thinking there is nothing between CIO and being brutalized at night is like saying there is nothing between corporal punishment and letting a child do whatever they want. For one, I think 4.5 is plenty old enough for them to know that they must stay in their own bed until they see the "light in the sky", for instance. Coming in for an early morning snuggle seems like a great compromise. Or, you could let them fall asleep in your bed and tell them you are going to move them when you come to bed for the night and they should fall back asleep on their own three times before coming to your bed. You can tell them they can stay in your bed if they do not touch you or wake you up. Involve them in the process. There is a whole world of alternatives by the time kids are your children's age. They are old enough to participate in problem solving. When a 4.5 year old is made to understand the problem and gets to participate in solving it, they often do very, very well. Good luck mama -- I'm so sorry that someone out there made you believe that this is what AP is all about. It isn't and you can change things starting now. For your benefit but ALSO very much so for your kids' benefit too. 

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This brings up a good point and something I've wondered about co-sleeping.  I didn't mind the idea of co-sleeping with my daughter, but after only a couple of days I had to stop.  After I had my daughter I was so exhausted, I didn't know it at the time but I had an fibromylgia.  I developed severe sleep problems, so bad I was missing days from work.  I wasn't diagnosed with these conditions until years later (after going to doctor after doctor).

 

I'm not saying co-sleeping caused my fibro or sleep problems, just that my health issues made it where I was physically unable to sleep with my baby anymore.  It was hard enough trying to sleep by myself, every time she sneezed or moved it would wake me up and I couldn't get back to sleep for hours.

 

How do those of you who co-sleep deal with the lack of sleep?  Or are you just able to fall back asleep easily?

 

And something else I've always wondered:  if your baby is always sleeping with you, WHEN do you have sex???

For someone with fairly typical sleeping patterns (no health issues) I think the key is that you and the baby are on similar sleep rhythms. I think it may start from pregnancy and just naturally move to sleeping outside the womb. So, you aren't being ripped out of a deep sleep but, rather, gently rousing at the same time as your baby. Of course, this is the ideal. That's how someone can get woken several times/night and not be totally sleep-deprived. 

 

All that said, co-sleeping isn't for everyone and parents needn't feel badly if it doesn't/didn't work for them. Personally, I think night-time parenting would be very hard for a short while if a parent can't co-sleep but I also do think that a child may well sleep better (often) in their own bed. It's a trade off.  

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I think that kids have their own timetable. That said, my daughter is one who was probably capable and would have benefitted from separate sleeping space at a younger age. There was a little hump to get over, but then she took to it very well and began sleeping better than ever. So sometimes it's worth experimenting to see what kind of kid you have. In our case, I felt that I had hindered her a little from getting the best sleep she could have. But she is fine, healthy and growing so in the end it's no big deal.

I have wondered about this, experimenting with how my dd sleeps the best.  I LOVE bed sharing and I know the last time I tried a transfer to her crib (right next to my bed, never been used!) she immediately woke and cried.  But that was months ago.  I have also considered bringing the spare twin mattress into my room and letting her have the king all to herself to see how she would sleep! :rotflmao

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This brings up a good point and something I've wondered about co-sleeping.  I didn't mind the idea of co-sleeping with my daughter, but after only a couple of days I had to stop.  After I had my daughter I was so exhausted, I didn't know it at the time but I had an fibromylgia.  I developed severe sleep problems, so bad I was missing days from work.  I wasn't diagnosed with these conditions until years later (after going to doctor after doctor).

 

I'm not saying co-sleeping caused my fibro or sleep problems, just that my health issues made it where I was physically unable to sleep with my baby anymore.  It was hard enough trying to sleep by myself, every time she sneezed or moved it would wake me up and I couldn't get back to sleep for hours.

 

How do those of you who co-sleep deal with the lack of sleep?  Or are you just able to fall back asleep easily?

 

And something else I've always wondered:  if your baby is always sleeping with you, WHEN do you have sex???

I used to think I was going to die from sleep deprivation, but I have somehow gotten into a rhythm with how dd sleeps and I actually feel pretty good most days- I actually never planned on bed sharing, it evolved that way because it was easier for everyone, and now I just love it.  As far as SEX, we take advantage of our spare room after dd goes to sleep :)   In regards to your fibro, I am so sorry you have been diagnosed, my sister has fibro and I have seen how she suffers, brightest blessings to you:heartbeat

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If you are considering night weaning (or maybe partial night weaning, one thing you could try is for you to sleep else where for the start of the night, and then have your partner comfort the baby back to sleep the first time she wakes, and then if she wakes at 2 or 3 (or even later) then at that point you can join in the bed and have the snuggles and nursing, etc.  We did something similar to this, although it eventually involved a transition for DD out of our bed altogether, but I have definitely found that if you have the right partner, removing yourself from being available can really nicely help with a transition to less, and eventually no, night nursing.  Once that is no longer the expectation (for us it took less than a week with both girls for a new normal to be established) you can move back in, keep your DD in bed with you, and hopefully get a better night's sleep.  It could be just my kids, but it seems that it doesn't take much time to change the routine of a really young child - a few days of less availability at night might do the trick.  Good luck with whatever solution you find (and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel...the question is how long is that darn tunnel??? :rotflmao

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Amber Most nights I fell back to sleep easily, occasionally not. For me the interrupted sleep was very difficult but I know DD would have (and then did when she slept on her own) wake and if she were in her own bed, require me to get up to comfort her/attend to her needs. Also, once in her own bed, DD did not fall back asleep as easily (meaning I could not fall back asleep as easily or quickly).

 

The sex issue was never an issue for us. We always found ways to be creative and weren't tied to being intimate in our bed. I feel like it actually made things better, as we connected and were playful and a got to be a bit sneaky. Being intimate while raising babies and toddlers is often challenging but it worked for us.

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I used to think I was going to die from sleep deprivation, but I have somehow gotten into a rhythm with how dd sleeps and I actually feel pretty good most days- I actually never planned on bed sharing, it evolved that way because it was easier for everyone, and now I just love it.  As far as SEX, we take advantage of our spare room after dd goes to sleep :)   In regards to your fibro, I am so sorry you have been diagnosed, my sister has fibro and I have seen how she suffers, brightest blessings to you:heartbeat

Thanks, sweetie.  I notice another important part of co-sleeping is having a supportive partner to help out as well.  Something unfortunatley I did not have.


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My almost-3-month old has slept up to 7 hours at times. Other times he wakes at 3 hours. It just depends on how much he's nursed throughout the day, I think.

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My child who has been a terrible sleeper her entire life, still sometimes does not sleep through the night at age 12 3/4 years old! We did manage to get her out of the bed before her sister was born, when she was 3 years old. Dh had to sleep on the floor next to her bed for a time to get her used to her own bed. I think she just is wired to sleep poorly. I give her melatonin when she's in a bad stretch.

 

My second child was an awesome sleeper pretty much from about 1-2 months old. She loved her crib that we started in our room. She would get tired and rub her eyes and lean towards it from my arms when she was about 5-6 months old, and would settle herself and go to bed. To this day she will put herself to bed and falls asleep within minutes. She only asks to sleep with me when she's sick. She's 9 1/2 years old.

 

Just goes to show, every kid is so entirely different.

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My first child night-weaned when I got pregnant again, when he was a little over a year. It took about a week of my husband managing his night-wakings, but after that he started sleeping through the night and continued to sleep in bed with us.

 

My second child is 18 months and still wakes up at least once a night. Sometimes I can whisper "Nummies in the morning" to her and rub her back and she'll go back to sleep without nursing, but at least half the time I end up nursing her so I can go back to sleep right away. However, I just found out I'm pregnant again, so her night-nursing days are numbered.


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My firstborn (now 13) slept through the night from birth.  She would sleep 7 hours in a row if she was in a cosleeper, and 12 hours if she was directly next to me.  I would have to wake her a bit to get her to nurse.  By the time she was a year, she'd sleep 14 hours if she was directly next to me. 

 

My son began sleeping through the night at around 13 months.  He went from waking 2 - 3 times to sleeping soundly for 12 - 14 hour stretches.

 

With my third, I didn't cosleep for the first 5 months with my 3rd because she was a preemie, had a worn mattress and was so exhausted that I feared I wouldn't wake if something happened.  She is 3.5 now and still isn't a good sleeper.  For the most part she started sleeping through the night at 19 months.

 

My 9 month old wakes 2 - 3 times.  Once in awhile she'll decide that it's playtime at 3:00 and it'll take an hour or two to convince her that it's sleepy time.  However, when she wakes to nurse, she's so quiet about it that I hardly notice. 

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My firstborn (now 13) slept through the night from birth.  She would sleep 7 hours in a row if she was in a cosleeper, and 12 hours if she was directly next to me.  I would have to wake her a bit to get her to nurse.  By the time she was a year, she'd sleep 14 hours if she was directly next to me. 

 

My son began sleeping through the night at around 13 months.  He went from waking 2 - 3 times to sleeping soundly for 12 - 14 hour stretches.

 

With my third, I didn't cosleep for the first 5 months with my 3rd because she was a preemie, had a worn mattress and was so exhausted that I feared I wouldn't wake if something happened.  She is 3.5 now and still isn't a good sleeper.  For the most part she started sleeping through the night at 19 months.

 

My 9 month old wakes 2 - 3 times.  Once in awhile she'll decide that it's playtime at 3:00 and it'll take an hour or two to convince her that it's sleepy time.  However, when she wakes to nurse, she's so quiet about it that I hardly notice. 


This is interesting. What do you attribute to the differences in your childrens sleeping styles?

Its nice to hear other stories about young babies who sleep long stretches. People are always skeptical when i tell them about my first two who were good sleepers, like im lying or something....

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With DS1 he was 25mos, right as he completely weaned after a late miscarriage (no more supply I guess). DS2 is about to turn 1 in a few days, and it is fulltime feeds all night long. He wakes like every 30mins lately and will not sleep unlatched. I am so tired! DS1 wasn't so bad as this...

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With DS1 he was 25mos, right as he completely weaned after a late miscarriage (no more supply I guess). DS2 is about to turn 1 in a few days, and it is fulltime feeds all night long. He wakes like every 30mins lately and will not sleep unlatched. I am so tired! DS1 wasn't so bad as this...

How exhausting. Do you dayfeed alot as well? He may be making up for less in the day...or alternatively, he may have sensory issues....does he eat something right before bedtime? I find that if i feed my now 20mth old plain yoghurt ( a tradition of  ours for all of us) before bedtime, she will wake less. If for some reason she falls asleep before then, she will wake more often. I always nurse her to sleep though.....just a couple of thoughts...

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How exhausting. Do you dayfeed alot as well? He may be making up for less in the day...or alternatively, he may have sensory issues....does he eat something right before bedtime? I find that if i feed my now 20mth old plain yoghurt ( a tradition of  ours for all of us) before bedtime, she will wake less. If for some reason she falls asleep before then, she will wake more often. I always nurse her to sleep though.....just a couple of thoughts...

I think my dd's problems with lots of night time waking has to do with not nursing enough during the day.  She is just so distracted by EVERYTHING she really only nurses when she lays down to sleep for her naps.  How often should a one year old nurse during the day?  How can I get her interested in nursing more often during the day?!

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My first was just about two years old and it did coincide with night weaning. My second began STTN sporadically really early, like around 4 months old. I just felt super lucky since sleep was quite an issue with her brother.

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How exhausting. Do you dayfeed alot as well? He may be making up for less in the day...or alternatively, he may have sensory issues....does he eat something right before bedtime? I find that if i feed my now 20mth old plain yoghurt ( a tradition of  ours for all of us) before bedtime, she will wake less. If for some reason she falls asleep before then, she will wake more often. I always nurse her to sleep though.....just a couple of thoughts...

He feeds every 2.5-3hrs during the daytime, and has 3 meals (BLW), sometimes a snack if possible in the afternoon. I dunno what is up with him, but its been this way since he was born. We started off at every 45mins round the clock as a newborn. I am actually glad he can last almost 3hrs now. Whew! I have been trying dairy alternatives (vegan family), but he wont have any of it


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I think my dd's problems with lots of night time waking has to do with not nursing enough during the day.  She is just so distracted by EVERYTHING she really only nurses when she lays down to sleep for her naps.  How often should a one year old nurse during the day?  How can I get her interested in nursing more often during the day?!

I nurse on demand, and dont count. On the whole i  nurse at waking, after breakfast (and she eats alot at breakfast), maybe once or twice  in the morning, and then for nap. Once or twice in the afternoon, and then for nap, once before supper....then at bedtime...6-7 times a day maybe? It depends, sometimes its less.....

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He feeds every 2.5-3hrs during the daytime, and has 3 meals (BLW), sometimes a snack if possible in the afternoon. I dunno what is up with him, but its been this way since he was born. We started off at every 45mins round the clock as a newborn. I am actually glad he can last almost 3hrs now. Whew! I have been trying dairy alternatives (vegan family), but he wont have any of it

I wonder if you are consuming alot of gluten, that stuff can wreak the most unpredictable havoc.... a vegan diet can lead to a heavy dependence on grains/legumes...which might also have unintended consequences....

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I wonder if you are consuming alot of gluten, that stuff can wreak the most unpredictable havoc.... a vegan diet can lead to a heavy dependence on grains/legumes...which might also have unintended consequences....

Oh we are gfree too. Sorry forgot to mention... he is gluten intolerant

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my older kids moved into their own beds at about 3, but probably didn't sleep through the nights all the time until 4 or so.  My 2 year old will occasionally sleep through the night but not usually. I don't think most people actually sleep non sto the whole night, but some kids need more help getting back to sleep than others.


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My son weaned just before his first birthday and slept through the night after that.  He continued to sleep with me until we moved in with my DH and his girls.  It was an easy transition because he slept with girls the first few months.  

He is 10 now and sleeps all night in his big boy bed.  Trust me there were times I NEVER thought he would LOL

 

My baby girl is almost 4. She just weaned with in the last few months.  She still sleeps with us but we are ready to be in her own bed.  Next milestone right?  

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