I feel like I am at the end of my tether - I have had no energy this week to get anything done (laundry, cooking, being a good mom). I also have a older daughter who's nearly 6 and she needs me to be there for her, to make school lunches and take her to school/activities. I have nothing left.
Last night while I was up with DS, I just stood in the living room with him and cried. I don't know what to do.....I don't know why he's not sleeping.....DH and I have been arguing about putting him in a crib. I am not in favor of having him CIO but at 4am I seriously start considering it.
I am so angry, frustrated and defeated. Logically I know that this is probably some phase and I should just roll with it but my sleep-deprived brain is having trouble with logic (and everything else).
Someone please tell me I'm not alone
Momma-ing the Muffin since October 2011!
Could he possibly be cutting new teeth? I found that when I got my son an amber necklace he slept ALOT better....I could be way off but its just a thought.
I`m sorry, this sounds really tough.
How heavy is he? Can you wear him in a baby carrier? What I would try is putting him on your back with a little teething toy and just move gently around in a dark room. It usually helps my kids to fall back asleep. Maybe he is going through a growth spurt or is working on a new skill. That keeps them up at night.
You can try the crib but I believe introducing something new at this point would only upset him more.
When my kids did things like this, I know I felt like I was at the end of my rope, too. We actually did use a crib sometimes, but CIO never! When a baby would wake up, not unhappy, but awake and want to play, we would follow the Sears' advice, "Pretend to be asleep." Don't turn on any lights. No books. No playing. Baby can have the breast and lie in your arms or lie and play quietly, but he won't have a playmate at 3:00 AM.
I once found myself "entertaining" a baby at 4:00 AM in the living room, my husband came downstairs and asked me what the heck I was doing. I suddenly realized. "What the heck am I doing? I can parent while lying down." So Baby was swept up, I turned out the light, I refused to play (nicely, because I was pretending to be asleep) she was offered the breast, didn't want it, smacked me so I would play with her, I turned so she couldn't get at me, she tried it again, crawled OVER me and tried to open my eye with her little fingers, I removed her fingers, offered the breast again. Baby finally got it, "She's not going to play with me." Then they would usually either go to breast or lie quietly.
Probably due to a milestone, learning to walk, teething, learning new words. My babies learned, "She doesn't play with us at night." I LOVED them at night, I would hold them and nurse them at night. But, under no circumstance does the light go on, nor do we engage in conversation (other than "do you want the other one?") we do NOT get out of bed and walk around, or play, we lie down, we rest, we nurse, Baby can babble quietly to herself. Eventually they get it.
I empathize, Mama. It can be exhausting, but if you gently pretend to be asleep, and only offer warm arms and the breast, and little to no stimulation, he will eventually get it.