Hi all, I'm new to this site:) Looking for advice and encouragement to help me get out with DH for a dinner/movie date night. The concept feels daunting right now. DD is 1yo, nurses to sleep for naps, bedtime, and her many night wakings (every 3hrs on a good night, every 1-2 whenever there is a cold/tooth/milestone aka often). She naps in her crib and starts the night there (7ish), then comes to bed with us at one of the night wakings to cosleep. I have hardly been out of the house at all at night in months. About a month ago grandma came so I could go out (she LOVES grandma) - I left after she was asleep, was gone for 2hrs, arrived to a wide awake baby playing happily but so wound up she was up for two more hours and was an overtired disaster. Grandma said she couldn't be consoled in room so she brought her downstairs to play with Poppop just to keep her happy. I don't know how hard she tried to get her back to sleep, but she does expect to nurse. So...what do you all do? Do I dare leave whenever and let them figure out bedtime themselves? Leave after bedtime and pray for a good stretch? Thanks!!
Mother of two spectacular girls, born mid-2010 and late 2012
I think it would be worth it to spend time teaching Grandma and Grandpa more about your babies' bedtime routine, as well as letting them experiment with alternatives to comfort nursing.
I am going through a similar thing, just trying to get out of the house a lone more, and what I am doing is introducing bottles (DD is nearly 5mo.... so it's a crap shoot) and transitioning from almost exclusively nursing to sleep to doing more bouncing/rocking to sleep.
Writing about life-long learning and discovery at: www.neoapprentice.com
:: A neo-apprentice knows there are no true masters.
25yo FTM to a Wiggle Panda , student teacher , newlywed