1. I need 4.5 yo DS to STTN in his own room.
2. I need him to fall asleep at night in less than 30 minutes.
3. I need to do this gently!
I nurse DS to sleep at naptime, in usually, 10 minutes. He falls right asleep.
He wakes up for the day around 6AM and we *try* to nap by about 12:30. He'll nap for about 1.5 hrs.
Our evening routine includes bath or shower, books for 20-30 min. lights out at 8, nurse for about 10 minutes and then cuddle 'till he falls asleep. This is where I get really annoyed some nights. He'll flop around, toss and turn, talk, talk, talk and just take seemingly f-o-r-e-v-e-r to go to sleep.
I've tried earlier lights out, later lights out, earlier naps, no naps - but ohmy, no naps means he's a mess by 6pm and falls asleep by 7 ish but then is awake by 11pm and hard to get back to sleep.
On a more "normal" night, he falls asleep by about 9:00 and then wakes up between midnight and 2ish to ninja into our bed. I'll just wake up and woah, there he is
I enjoy it and on the count-on-one-hand times he's slept 'till 4 or 5, I've missed him! My DH on the other hand is over it. He's a light sleeper and has been pretty miserable for oh, 4.5 years!
I would like advice for helping DS fall asleep faster and for helping him stay in his bed.
When I've tried to even nurse, cuddle and then go sit in his rocking chair in his room, he complains that he needs company and wants to hold my hand. He's a pretty attached little guy - we homeschool and doesn't like to be away from me. As long as he knows I'm near, he's very outgoing and adventurous. Anyway, I feel sad to leave him and I'm not sure he's *ready* to stay in his room all night. But, something has to change for DH. He's been super supportive of nursing and our partial co-sleeping thus far but he's tired and I understand. He also doesn't like it when I stay in DS's room all night - he wants his wife and I understand that, too. I like cuddling with hubby, too! Ideally -- I'd love for us all to be together but sigh....
I'm wondering if we put his twin bed in here for him to crash on when he comes in would help? Or getting a King? Or how can I gently help him to stay in his room? I was hoping he would naturally want to be in his room someday soon, but I just read the post about 7+ still cosleeping. I'm afraid that would be our DS!