I have been co-sleeping with dd from day one (though it wasn't planned -- she was distraught in the crib the first night, brought her into the bed, and that was that.) Until she was about 9 months old (?), all three of us shared the bed (me, dd, dh.) But then dh had a series of work issues that forced him to stay very late (like 11/12), and he has this thing where he MUST read in bed before he goes to sleep, and his schedule was becoming really disruptive. So, we decided he should sleep in the guest room until the rough spot had passed. It was actually a big sigh of relief -- he takes a long time to get to sleep, I would be mad because he'd wiggle too much and wake up dd, etc. And he gained the freedom to read, wiggle, cough, and do whatever he wanted.
So... dd is now 20 months old. Dh is still in the guest room.
: We're not sure what to do about that. He wakes me up every morning, and we usually have some (ahem) quality time together while dd is still asleep in the bed. He still likes the freedom -- I still like not having to worry about wiggling and coughing and all. And dd has gotten much more mobile since dh left; we now switch sides a couple of times as she nurses down for the night, and then sleep quite comfortably a couple of feet apart (she by the wall), and I can't imagine fitting dh back in. But we do miss sleeping together, and he misses snuggling with dd. (He does get a fair amount of reading-books-together snuggling et al).
Does anyone else here co-sleep with just the baby/ kids, no dh? Since things are actually going quite well (dd sleeps fantastically) (knock on wood), should we not mess with a good thing and just wait 'til she's on her own?
Opinions/ experiences/ tips appreciated.