Today I tried unwrapping her fingers from their death grip on my hair - and she got VERY angry at me - she started to cry and she reached up and grabbed my hair as if to say - how dare you not let me pull your hair. <sigh>
It wouldn't be so bad but I have a lot of skin allergies and the skin on my head is in bad condition - it's very sensitive and I want to cry when she's pulling my hair - but she wont go to sleep any other way!
HELP! Any advice? Tips?
Now, though I have gotten her to put her hand down the back of my shirt and now she rubs the tar out of my back instead, which-unlike the front actually feels nicerShe is two. I would say, s;owly try to seeif you can swithc her over to doing something else. With time it is possible.
great suggestions with the hair ladies
i remember the way my mom would brush my hair. she would grab a bunch and hold it tight near my scalp so it wouldn't hurt the ends when she brushed
I'm wondering if a nursing necklace would work if she usually eats lying down. I'll give it a try. Maybe I should just cut my hair off and give it to her... LOL
Usually it is painless, but sometimes it gets really annoying. I have also tried giving him a stuffed animal or blanket, and he will get really mad... cry and fuss.
No advise, just empathy
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I also do the same thing...
Originally Posted by ETW
Second, instead of trying to keep my hair away from him, I section off a big chunk, hand him the bottom end and hold on to the top of it myself. This way his pulling doesn't pull on my scalp and if it does it is a big chunk which hurts less than individual strands. HTH.
We tried the doll hair thing too, one of those really nice dolls with really pretty hair. Nothing, still wants mama. I'll look forward to following this thread.
Starting around 8 months of age, I resigned myself to the fact that there is apparently no replacement for mama's hair (and, it really is cute that the little guy is so attached to my hair) and started working with him. I really had to work with him to show him how to keep his hands soft, not pull, but he really learned pretty quickly. It just took a few weeks.
Now he won't go to sleep (if he's with me) without playing with my hair. And in the middle of the night he'll reach up and play with it.
He does the strumming like a guitar thing sometimes, but anymore he doesn't usually pull it hard when doing that so I let him.
So, I think it depends on how much your various DC like playing with hair. My DS did it constantly and I'm glad I taught him to play nice with it (although sometimes he forgets). My DH has long hair but he didn't like DS to mess with it, so he has taught him not to mess with his hair and been very successful by just removing his hands from it and telling him now.
Don't know if this helps anyone, but I just thought I would share my experience. I think it's really cute how much he likes my hair.