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ok my dd (19 months) is really set in her ways about her routines and schedule. but day light savings time teamed with a HUGE growth spurt has thrown us for a loop
tonight was the first time that i have tried something new with bedtime and i can't yet tell if it was good or bad
let me know (a politely as possiable...b/c i am looking for feedback)
first this has been our old routine:
reading books in her room laying down on a matress on the floor (i call it her room, but i just wanted a place to decorate, she has been a co-sleeper since day one)
then rocking in her room (the rokcing chair won't fit in our room) with the lights off while i sing her to sleep
after she falls asleep
then i carry her into our room/family bed and i lay her down and walk out the door
the whole thing takes under 20 minutes and always started at 8:00, so she was asleep before 8:20 every night!
now day light savings time threw her off (her nap time has stayed the same, which is weird) but it seems like she is falling asleep at 9:20 every night....
the other change is that she has hit a HUGE growth spurt and she is now too big to really be rocked to sleep, she does not fit.
that is what i used to do and why i think that it is not working
so here is what i tried tonight:
we did the books on the matress on the floor in her room
and then i went to rock her and she said, "i just want to go to sleep in the bed, no rocky-rock!"
and since i have been trying to brave the switch from this routine to just putting her down in our bed and laying beside her till she goes to sleep (i knew she was just getting bigger and bigger and i could not imagine trying to get her to fit on my lap when i am preg with #2, which i hoping to be soon!)
so tonight when she said this i was like "ok here it is she is ready"
so we went into our room and layed in the bed and she rolled around for a while being silly (for like 30 minutes) and then cried and yelled and talked about things that scared her (for another 30 minutes) then she just kind of sucked her fingers (something she does to go to sleep everynight) and mumbled nonesense words and stuff (another 30 minutes) and just falls out.
this is 9:30!
so an 1 and 1/2 hr process.
so the whole time i am laying beside her and rubbing her back (when she wanted me to) and soothing her with words when she wanted it etc.
but it was so sad to watch her cry so hard!
and she was crying and asking for things (read a book, go downstairs, go outside etc) and i felt like she just needed to go to sleep, so i did not grant her wishes. she hardly EVER cries at all and she was really screaming crying for 30 minutes...
and most of the time she did not want me to really touch her
it seemed like she had some real issues she was trying to work out, she seemed to let out a lot of stress, although it was painful for me to watch.
and i have heard (is this called the continum concept? or am i mixing up my terms?) that when you rock/nurse/sing your baby to sleep you are teaching them to repress their cries and that they need their chance to cry at the end of the day to release and get it all out? (if they want to)
so i am sorry this is so long, but i do not have a lot of noCIO pro cosleep support in real life and i
guess i am wondering if i should go back to the old routine tomorrow night OR
keep it up with this new one
no matter what i am going to start the whole routine closer to 9 and read the books in the family bed instead of her room so that we can just put down the last book and go to sleep, hopefully!