We do what works - kind of a modified co-sleeping like described above - goes to sleep in crib then joins us when we go to bed (then we have time and space to talk and get our love on if we want to). This works for us, our son is happy with it.
My position is this: I will extoll the virtues of what we do and say it works for us, but I won't make other's feel that they have to be like me. I am certainly not the most AP mom in the world, but more than the general public. I feel that if I tried to push the whole enchilada on people who just weren't with it, it would be a waste of time and alienating. I have a very good friend who had terrible ppd, and just could barely hang on not breastfeeding and not sharing a bed, that it would be cruel to suggest that ebf and cosleeping are the only way to go.
To people who genuinely want to know, I show them how to use a sling and talk about the up and down sides of it, explain what my breastfeeding experiences were like (longer than a year, but not EBF, and often unpleasant) and say that I'd do it all over with a second child in a heartbeat, and hopefully longer. And talk about our sleeping arrangements and give them "permission" to ignore people who tell them to use CIO. Many people believe it is the only way to get sleep (I was almost convinced, too), and don't know the alternatives.
So, the short version is, I'd love to have everyone be as AP as they can be, rather than have the "totally AP" -vs- the "totally traditional".