First off, I want to say that babies absolutely do NOT need to be be "taught" to go to sleep. This is something that every child learns to do at some point, when they are developmentally ready. No parent ever had to move into their child's dorm room to help them fall asleep. I also agree w/ PP's who said that 1 yo is much too early to be teaching about authority and "who's the boss"--and I think Victorian's 15 yo anaology was dead-on.
As for some ideas to make bedtime a little easier on both of you--and I know I'm repeating some of the OP's.
--Make the room as dark as possible. My DD is sensitive to light and darkness and adjusts her sleep patterns accordingly.
--Try to learn the signs that indicate your child is truly ready for sleep and not just getting tired. For my DD, just yawning and rubbing her eyes isn't enough. She has to reach that "starting to get a bit cranky" phase.
--A consistent routine is important, but leave some room for flexibility. I take my DD to bed to nurse to sleep sometime b/tw 7:30 and 8:30, but once in a while, she will be ready as early as 7:00 or as late as 9:00. If I try to nurse her to sleep before she's ready, she will just throw a tantrum and try to crawl away from me. If she's truly tired, she will nurse quietly to sleep.
--One thing that has been a lifesaver
for us is to have a mattress on our bedroom floor and to completely babyproof the room. If my DD wants to crawl around and play instead of go to sleep, I can just lay on the mattress until she comes back to nurse. This is true at night, naptime, or if she wakes up too early in the morning.
A complete sanity saver!!!!!
--I also have to nurse my DD to sleep lying down so that I can quietly sneak away once she's asleep. Even at 1 year old, if she falls asleep in my arms and I lay her down, she will wake up.
--Lots of physical daytime activities and outdoor time really can help tire them out.
--It can also be helpful if you're able to figure evening activities that tire your child. For some reason, taking my DD for a wagon ride after supper seems to help her settle down and get drowsy.
Any way, I'm just tossing out ideas that I've found to be helpful. I hope you find something that works for your child soon.