*insomniac creeping in*
we've partially transitioned k into her own bed (she spends about half the night there, though she sometimes spends her whole night). we did it because i was NOT SLEEPING anymore. we have a queen-sized bed. my husband is 6-foot and a bed hog, i'm a cover hog and k wants the whole bed as her's-- she's tall for a 19 month old (already 32"!!) and STRONG and pushes her feet into my back and stomach and her father's head. then there are the cats who CANNOT be convinced to sleep anywhere else (trust me, i've tried, but a closed door just makes them more obnoxious). plus, i'm almost 20 weeks pregnant now and am slowly taking up more room in the bed.
we'll probably still be partially co-sleeping with k when q comes along (i'm thinking we may need a co-sleeper because, really, there is NOWHERE for a 4th person to be!) but i hope it really is just partially. co-sleeping with my active toddler just isn't working for the family anymore. when any member isn't getting enough sleep and is thus cranky and short-tempered for the day, the whole family vibe gets off and EVERYONE turns into a cranky, short-tempered grump. and isn't ap all about making decsions based on what is best for your family? i LOVE co-sleeping, i do, but i just can't stand so many people in the bed anymore. i find myself often resentful when k comes toddling in the middle of the night and that is NOT good.
i hope we can understand that being respectful and gentle with our kids extends to being respectful and gentle to ourselves, too.