This is what my then-10-or-11-month-old daughter's pediatrician told me when I told him that she was waking up several times a night to nurse and I was sleeping 3 hours a night: The more you do, the more she will wake up; the less you do, the less she will wake up. The most you can do is get up, change her diaper, nurse, play with her. Obviously, we weren't doing that. I was just nursing, and between that and insomnia, I wasn't sleeping and my health was poor because of it. It was just easier to nurse her than to hear her cry. We had to do less than that to get her to sleep. We did not want her to cry alone, so we let her cry in our bed. The first night, she cried off and on (mostly on) for almost an hour. The second night, an hour and fifteen minutes. The third, 45 minutes. The fourth, twenty. The fifth, about two. The sixth, she slept through the night until about 6:00. She only woke up once per night instead of her usual three or four times. Then, we had to make another change because she started waking up earlier and earlier until we were moving towards the old pattern: She had to get out of our bed. We took the unused crib from her room, removed the movable rail, and wedged it between our bed and the wall, using rolled towels to fill in gaps. She now usually sleeps until between 6:30 and 7:00 when I nurse her for maybe an hour and catch some more zzz's. We are having a problem now because she was teething (she's now 20 months, molars, ouch) and had a cold so we let her in bed with us. It took a few nights to convince her that she really did have to sleep in her crib. I wish we had done all this sooner, around 4-6 months. Of course, your mileage may vary.