I have a question... we are going to have a new addition to our family any time soon (due date in 3 weeks).
My toddler sleeps with us in our big comfty bed, even though we got her own toddler bed at the foot of our bed (which she loves to play in and I would start off the night with her sleeping there and she would join us later in the night, but as my pregnancy progressed I wasn't too comfortable laying down with her in her bed so would let her continue to sleep with us and once in a while I or dh would carry her to her toddler bed). After a while we just gave up so dd still sleeps with us.
Our neighbor gave us an antique crib (narrow and wooden) and can fit snuggly between our bed and wall. My dd is so excited and says its for the baby. (funny thing she never slept in a crib). I asked her where her bed is, she was so puzzled.
Anyway... I decided to make room for all of us, I am going to put the toddler bed on one side of our bed then I can roll her over, and have the crib on the other side of the bed (since the baby will be so tiny not sure if I can trust first few weeks with toddler and baby together in family bed with us).
My neighbor asked me won't the baby keep my toddler awake in the night if I have to wake up to nurse her and with the babies hunger need etc. I've thought about it too, I know that nursing with babies in bed is easier and the whole family is not roused.
But wanted to ask others here. My dd still wakes up to ask to nurse in the night too so I know I will need to meet her need as well (she will be 3 in march).
Also dh and I are hard of hearing, we cant hear the babies cry and have a flashing system (which we hate but use). So much better with babies/toddler with us then they can tap us or we feel them moving about much earlier before the light signal goes off. I cant imagine having dd in another room and having two separate flashing system...one to signal her cries and one to signal babies cries.
I like the idea of having a Family Bedroom too since the toys are separate. The playroom is for daytime and at night we all snuggle together in the same room and even same bed.
Sorry I rambled on here... my question is will my toddler get used to the baby crying and noises in the night? I know some couples found their babies too noisy and gave up cosleeping or having their babies in the crib in same room due to that. Dh sleeps wonderfully when baby in same bed as us as I can quickly nurse baby back to sleep (before flashing goes off). I assume my toddler will get used to it despite having good and sensitive hearing.
Dh thinks she will help us even to alert us when baby is crying, but I dont want her to lose sleep. I think she will sleep through if she is so tired. One time dh locked himself out and I couldnt hear doorbell and he rang and ranged for hours and my dd slept through it all. So I assume the same with the baby, toddler can tune out the noise?
Thanks for sharing.