Well, while I agree with the other posters....
I don't think at this point, it is going to do you anygood to try to change your dh...or expect that he will *enlighten* himself with the wisdom and benefits of AP.
I think he is probably a great guy in some areas, and when it comes to supporting the mother of his child...he may just need some time and experience.
I applaud that he took a year off from work to spend time with the family...I've only heard of this from European families, and I see you
're from CA.
I think you need to empower him, try to involve him as much as you can so that he is bonding with your babe as well. He sounds sort of *macho* and I'm guessing that he maybe feels unneeded and incapable in the babycaring area.
Since you've already tried to convince him of AP...and he rejects it....
I would do all that you can to seek your support elsewhere. LLL,here,AP support groups,try to find a playgroup(more for you at this point) that suppports AP, and maybe hire a mothers helper to come into the home to let you nap.
And above all, ignore your inlaws....for one thing, they are from the crib/formula/cio/children play only in their room generation....what do they know?
Your baby should want to be held....if he(?) didn't, I would think something is wrong...HE"S 6 MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh, and we have an air-cleaner in our bedroom...it provides plenty of white noise...my dh takes care of our kids on the weekend mornings so I can sleep...supposedly they are loud...but I can't hear ANYTHING!!!