Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Vancouver Island, Canada
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You are doing the right thing by cosleeping, so keep it up!
You have a problem: you are worried about the 3 hours before you go to bed when your child is sleeping, right? So here are some suggestions:
First, put your mattress on the floor and maybe put some soft rugs along the side, that way if ds falls off he'll have a soft landing. Secondly, you could get some bedrails. You don't say how old your son is but is he really crawling around or just rolling? If he's just rolling, the bedrails should do just fine. If he's actively crawling, the bed--on-the-floor thing is better. Make sure the room is childproof too so you dont' have to worry about him getting into things if you aren't there.
What I do is just not put DD in our bed until we go to bed. Luckily she falls asleep around the same time I do, 11:30 or so, so we just go to bed together. But if she falls asleep early, I just keep her with me until I'm ready to go to bed, then we both go to bed together. So I don't have to worry about her rolling out of bed. She's not crawling yet, though, and when she does I'll probably just put the bed down on the floor for her.
As for the lack of support, please know in your heart that you are right to cosleep. You are not doing anything harmful, and I think the crib thing is obviously not working out for you or your son, so I would just scrap that idea right now. It's obvious you are only doing it because you are getting flack from unsupportive family (so sorry about that!) and NOT because it is something YOU want to do, or something you SHOULD do. There is no way I could get a wink of sleep if DD were in another room and I am PROUD of that fact. That's how a mama SHOULD be!!