Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Berks County, PA
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We have a dd that will be turning 2 in a week. For the past couple of weeks or so, she has not wanted to go to sleep at night.
She wakes up in the am 7:30 to 8, naps for 2 hours 1 to 2pm and then around 8pm will want to go upstairs to our bedroom. I am still nursing on demand, she lets me know when she wants to and I willingly oblige, so nursing is not just a night thing for us.
I work out of my house as an Aflac sales rep and I go to college (will be graduating in May !!!), she is very used to the routine of me being out of the house for 2 to 4 hours at a time in the am or early afternoon. My aunt, who also lives with us, has been her primary caregiver since she was born and she is very used to being with her.
We have all lived with my inlaws since she was 6 months and we have been co-sleeping since she got home from the hospital, so she is very used to the family bed and this house.
She usually says "night night" and crawls in my lap or takes my hand to lead me to the bedroom. At this point she is rubbing her eyes and yawning, obvious signs of sleepiness.
After the last diaper change and jammies, we go to the bedroom and she will nurse. Then she will get up out of bed and want to go play in another room. She gets extreamly upset and starts screaming if I tell her it's sleepy time.
Someone told me that toddlers use play at the end of the day to sort of review the day's events and to tell them time's up and let them play for 15 minutes or so. I have tried this but she will go back and forth from play to the bedroom 3 or 4 times.
I have tried to let her cry it out for 5 to 10 minutes (an eternity for a 2 year old, imo), no dice - she acts like I'm torturing her (which I think crying it out is tortutre). I have tried to give her toys to play in our room until she's done but she still wants to go out. I have tried keeping her up longer and waiting until 8:30 or 9 before I take her into the bedroom. I have tried waking her up earlier in the am and cutting nap time to 1 hour, to make her sleepier, but still nothing has worked. I have tried having my husband there and play with her in our room before bed. I have tried having him come in only after she is asleep, to see if 1 on 1 time with me is better at getting her to sleep.
Not co-sleeping is not an option becasue there is no other room for her (all other bedrooms are occupied by other adults).
Help! My inlaws already thing I'm some sort of pinko liberal (well I am, but that's besides the point) becasue I breastfed her longer than 3 months and we co-sleep. The nightly battles and screaming are only underscoring their suspicions that I'm a permissive mother.
Any advice from you moms with more experience would be appreciated!