I am 9 1/2 weeks pregnant, and already thinking about what I need, don't need when baby gets here! We are planning on doing the family bed, I'm already looking forward to it.
So, here is my question: will we need to buy a crib? I think we probably won't, but others are telling me differently. I thought I'd go to the source, experienced family bed mamas!
Any input would be greatly appreciated!
Cribs are not a necessity.
We got the same thing from all sides: "But you have to have a crib!"
And when we didn't have one when ds was 6 months old, MIL bought us one.
DS has never slept in it; we do use it for occasional time-out's. Otherwise, it just clutters up the room.
Don't spend your own money on a crib if you know you're doing the family bed.
|... by momto l&a
Cribs are an absolute necessity, for storing clean laundry
The rest of the world can't get past the idea that babies belong behind bars. I just don't get it.
Ignore the crib.
My suggestion would be to put your mattresses on the floor (we have wall2wall futons in our bedroom, 5inthebed) so you don't have to worry so much about falling out of the bed, either. (Though young babies should not be put near the edge, they can fall off, and even the 4inch drop off a futon would be dangerous ...)
The folks who are pushing cribs are sure to tell you that you absolutely must schedule your feedings and feed soandso many ounces : etc., etc. ... and since breasts don't come with liquid measurement indications ... : :LOL :LOL :LOL
Sorry. The family bed is something that makes me get all dewey-eyed & verbose all at the same time.
Good luck ...
But we do have a crib. And although ds has never slept in it (he is 6 months old), I like that we have one - and ds is in it for a few minutes most days.
We have 2 dogs and 2 cats - the crib is a hair-free/pet-free zone for ds. I can put him there while hauling diaper pails to the basement or if I have to clean muddy paws and know that he is safe from accidental trampling.
The other day - one of the cats vomited and the dogs were heading over to eat it (gross huh? - no wonder washing diapers seems like nothing <grin>). So ds was put in crib with mobile & toys while I scooped up vomit and cleaned carpet.
I don't think everyone *needs* a crib - but if someone offers to loan you one...think about trying it out for a while. You may find that you use it after all - just not in the way it was intended.
And it makes a good toybox!
We've always slept on a futon about 5 inches off the floor...
We were given a crib mattress, and for awhile,had the futon on the floor with crib mattress next to it...
And now,the crib mattress is on a toddler bed,pushed against our raised futon...
I suppose there were times when I wished we had a crib for napping.,..like when kids were7-12mos old and could(and were) crawling right off futon at naps...
My good friend uses one for naps and for a safe place to put her dd when peeing,showering,etc...
I think the family bed and a crib can co-exist nicely and even make life a little bit easier! However, I'm pretty sure this isn't to popular of a view to have here.
If someone wants to buy you a crib you could suggest the co-family sleeping portacrib. I believe RightStart or One Step Ahead has it. The side attaches to your bed so it's sort of like sleeping together.
Since our bed is only full size, we used the crib my MIL gave us by taking off one side and putting it up against our bed.
We're shopping for a king size now as we have two children and the full is really cozy!
What I would suggest is the Graco pack and play with a changing table. We have one in our living room and it can be used to corral him if neccessary (almost never happens) and for toy, diaper & clothes storage. It also has a bassinet attachment for when babe is little (we used this for naps when he was bitty to keep him away from the cats). Use the changing table all the time.
I am not comfortable putting him on the bed alone, so we just put him to sleep on a blanket with the boppy underneath it (creates a "lap like" feeling)...I lay next to him and nurse him to sleep and he sacks out in the living room. Because we never put him in a "quiet place" to sleep he can now sleep through anything...vaccumm, dishes, people talking. Now that he is a bit older, he will sometimes snuggle onto the blanket and go to sleep on his own when he gets tired. (proof that you don't need to "train" your child to self comfort, they will do it on their own when they are ready for it) This had the added advantage of being easy to transport when we spent Christmas with in-laws.
Mom to 10yo Autistic Wonder Boy and 6yo Inquisitive Fireball Girl . December birthdays.
Dd#2 actually likes it and sometimes spends the first part of the night in it before we go up to bed. Dd #1 loved the swing when colicky. Babies are all different - I'd wait and see what works for yours before spending $$$s on any equipment.
We had one b/c like you we were *told* that we *needed* it...but it just became a cage for ds's stuffed animals and a good show to the inlaws when they came that he actually may be sleeping in it and not with us...lol....I finally took it down at around 3 months old when I just got tired of trying to cover up the fact that we were not your mainstream parent types to our extended family members.
Congrats good luck and welcome..
Free To Be~
"Living is learning and when kids are living fully and energetically and happily they are learning a lot, even if we don't always know what it is."
Dh and I are TTC our first baby together (my 4th) and when Dh said "What kind of crib should we get?" Our 4 yo looked at him very seriously and said "Daddy, we don't put babies in cages in this house!"
Once baby arrived, ds wanted nothing to do with the crib. Co-sleeping was the only way for us. We were closet co-sleepers.
We finally took the crib down when ds figured out how to climb up it, at 15 months. We never even put it back up when our 2nd arrived.
I agree that cribs serve as great storage bins for clean clothes. They keep the in-laws from asking too many nosey questions, which can be nice for new parents.
Best wishes for you and baby!
One other note, in the early months (ds is now 7 1/2 months) we used a cosleeper that attaches to our bed (3 sides). When ds was younger he started out in that at the beginning of the night and some naps (when he wasn't napping in my arms that is). I really liked it.
|Originally posted by Annais
So, here is my question: will we need to buy a crib?
My toddler likes to climb into her crib, and play babies, cover them up, cuddle, read books and have some down time.
Maybe start with a cradle- bigger than a bassinet . I had a cradle in my room and say I woke up early, I could move baby into the cradle while I hopped into the shower. They can stay in a cradle until they can sit up- around 5 months or so.
|Originally posted by momto l&a
Cribs are an abosolute necessity, for storing clean laundry
Anyway, I agree, you definately do not need a crib. You will probably hear otherwise only from those who think that you will not be able to cosleep for some mainstream 'because that's just wrong' kind of reason. Everyone else will agree they are strictly optional and probably won't get used.
My kids got toddler beds when they were ready for a separate place to nap or sleep part of the night.
Mama, homeschooler, midwife. DD (13yo), DS (11yo), DD (8yo), DD (3yo), somebody new coming in November 2013.
If somebody insists on buying you one, or if the expense of a crib is not a detriment to your budget, I'm sure you can find uses for it, as some of the other mamas here have suggested, for naps and other such events. And of course there is nothing wrong with that!!!!
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
My two dogs sometimes jump up, and I just don't think a moses basket would do it for us.
I still haven't made up my mind yet about *anything* that we "need." Except of course, lots and LOTS of beautiful cloth dipes!
Thanks again everyone!