My DD is 18 months old and still nursing a lot, and I'm considering night weaning her. I have no idea how to go about it, or if I really even want to do it. I really believe in child led weaning, but I have been TTC for a while, and I really think that night nursing may be causing problems for me in this area.
Our usual evening through morning goes something like this:
7-9 pm is my computer/TV time and Lindsay's Daddy time. During this time Lindsay comes to me about every 15 minutes and nurses for a minute or two and goes back to playing. I don't know if she's cluster feeding or just trying to check in with me to make sure I'm still there, even though I'm in the same room she's in.
9-9:30 pm is when we head upstairs and put Lindsay to bed. We put her in her pajamas, read a story, brush teeth, and then I nurse her to sleep. Once she is asleep, I put her in her crib in her room.
She wakes up usually between 3 and 4 hours after we put her to sleep. At this point, DH goes and gets her and brings her into bed with us. I nurse her back to sleep and she stays in bed with us for the rest of the night. She will usually wake up about one more time and nurse right back to sleep.
5-8 am DH gets up at 5:00 and this wakes Lindsay up. She nurses and goes right back to sleep and usally nurses about every half hour until about 8:00 when she wakes up for good.
I don't think most of these nursings are for food, since she usually nurses for a very short period of time at night. I think that it is just the only way that she knows how to get herself back to sleep. A few times when she has awaken in her crib, DH has just held her and walked with her until she fell asleep on his shoulder. As soon as he tries to put her back in her crib though, she starts crying instantly. If he gets her asleep and brings her into our bed she instantly wakes up and wants to nurse. It seems like the only way to get her not to nurse is if I sleep in a different room.
For those of you that have night weaned, what age was your child?
How did you go about it?
How long did it take?
Was it very tramatic for your child?
I'm just so torn about what I want to do. I really want to be there for my DD and meet her needs, but I really want to get pregnant. I'm not getting any younger, and I want to have at least 2 more babies. I am hoping to be able to not nurse her between 10 pm and 5 am. Another concern is even though she doesn't seem to be "eating" that much when she night nurses, and don't want to decrease her caloric intake, especially since she is very small. Will she just make up for it by nursing more during the day? As you can see I am very confused about what to do. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated.