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Doing CIO might work, or it might not and you'll have put yourself and him thru hell in the meantime. Or often it works temporarily and has to be repeated. Ugh. Personally I could never do that to my babe, and you are so right to listen to your gut and not your relatives.
My first suggestion is that you embrace cosleeping fully. While side-carring or combination crib/bed works well for some families, it is obviously not working for you. My dd sleeps right beside me so that when she wakes up my breast is right there and she's latched on before she has a chance to fully wake. If for some reason my breast is not there, she will rapidly get more and more agitated. Your description of your son's behaviour sounds like what mine would do were she to have to wait too long for her breast. So please do try this - sleep cuddled up with baby's head near your breast. We all sleep very well and I barely waken for feeds so it's no big deal for us.
I also want to second what Kindred said about embracing your decision, remind yourself it is not forever and you are being the best mother to your baby. STOP sharing your woes with non-helpful or critical people. Lie if you have to - it's none of their business. Come here to vent - we'll support you!! And yes, go to bed early, take naps whenever you can, etc.
I hope this helps!!