My daughter needs to go to bed around 8, so I lie down with her until she is asleep, and then I get up. I used to put her in her crib for the first part of the night, but she always woke up every 45 minutes or so until I brought her into bed with me, and was very upset to find herself in her crib. She was resistant to bedtime, and also naps. I gave up on the crib completely. I know you are not supposed to leave a baby alone in an adult bed, but we have a very small apartment, and we just keep the bedroom door open so we always hear her if she starts moving around. Also, we have a bedrail. We are all *very* happy with this arrangement. We will continue to this until dd decides on her own that she is ready to sleep in her own bed. It has been 5 months since we stopped using the crib, and now dd asks to go "nigh-nigh" for bedtime, and also for naps. She now has pleasant associations with sleep, and doesn't mind being alone in our bed, because it is her "place". She might stir during the night, but she goes back to sleep on her own without any rocking or nursing. Most nights she sleeps for 11 hours straight. I know bedsharing isn't for everyone, but it really works for us!