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View Poll Results: full time vs. part time family bed
bed share full time, taking baby or kids to bed when you go 21 27.63%
bed share full time, putting baby or kids to sleep before you 35 46.05%
baby in crib or cosleeper before you and bring to bed for nursing 16 21.05%
baby in bedside cosleeper before you and bring to bed for nursing 1 1.32%
bring baby to bed just for nursing and put back in crib or cosleeper 3 3.95%
baby's crib in other room and transferred back after eating. 0 0%
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Co-sleeping and the Family Bed > full time co-sleeping vs. part time and do you like it?
tara's Avatar tara 01:57 PM 04-01-2003
Hey, ekblad... I don't feel judged by you in particular, and I know you've had your share of sleeping ups and downs...

Part of the reason this is so tough for me is that I'm not happy! How could I be happy about the kind of sleep we get? It doesn't work for us! But, I'm pretty much out of options besides just waiting or CIO... So, it's easy for me to get frustrated with anyone who thinks that co-sleeping solves all sleep problems, or who belittles any of the things we've tried in our journey towards better sleep. It's easy for me to get frustrated with anyone who judges me for my choices around sleep... Sometimes I think I should just stop talking to people about sleep, or at least stop talking to anyone who hasn't slept like us. How can you truly relate to my experience if you haven't gone 16 months without a decent night's sleep (and my standard of decent is pretty low...)? How can you relate if you don't know what it's like to wake up 20 times a night for weeks on end? With no chance for a nap, with a needy babe, fighting illness... Blah blah blah, woe is me, wah wah whiney baby.

I think I will take a break from this forum. Starting now!

ekblad9's Avatar ekblad9 02:00 PM 04-01-2003
No sleep is the worst! You know they use it for torture in some countries. It tortures me! I'm so sorry you've had struggles! I'm sending good thoughts for better sleep resolutions!
nuggetsmom's Avatar nuggetsmom 03:41 AM 04-14-2003
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Originally posted by tara
And, FWIW, I believe my kid *does* need a bedtime. When we stay out later or don't start our bedtime routine on time as planned we all pay for it. And my child would fight bedtime until next week if I never 'made' him go to sleep. Some kids do well without routine, some kids need more structure, some kids are born sleep-fighters. I consider not only my child's gentle heart but what is in his and our family's best interest, and sometimes that means I put him in pj's even though he struggles and I lie down and nurse him to sleep. Doesn't work every time, and those times perhaps I misread his cues.
My DD totally needs an early bedtime. We experimented with putting her to bed later for a while because bedtime was a struggle, but she was a total pest to be around the whole time. Like some alien had invaded her body or something and she was always crying and fussing and didn't know what she wanted. And she woke up more often during the night if that was possible My happy singing cheerful girl came back when I reintroduced the bedtime struggle. In her own bed. When she wakes up she comes to mine. I can't fall asleep with someone that close to me unless I am still pretty much asleep.

DD is also not a great sleeper, and in fact started sleeping better when I did put her in her own bed. We stay very flexible so everyone gets as much sleep as possible and Oh awake bye
monkeysmommy's Avatar monkeysmommy 04:46 PM 04-14-2003
My daughter needs to go to bed around 8, so I lie down with her until she is asleep, and then I get up. I used to put her in her crib for the first part of the night, but she always woke up every 45 minutes or so until I brought her into bed with me, and was very upset to find herself in her crib. She was resistant to bedtime, and also naps. I gave up on the crib completely. I know you are not supposed to leave a baby alone in an adult bed, but we have a very small apartment, and we just keep the bedroom door open so we always hear her if she starts moving around. Also, we have a bedrail. We are all *very* happy with this arrangement. We will continue to this until dd decides on her own that she is ready to sleep in her own bed. It has been 5 months since we stopped using the crib, and now dd asks to go "nigh-nigh" for bedtime, and also for naps. She now has pleasant associations with sleep, and doesn't mind being alone in our bed, because it is her "place". She might stir during the night, but she goes back to sleep on her own without any rocking or nursing. Most nights she sleeps for 11 hours straight. I know bedsharing isn't for everyone, but it really works for us!
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