I'm expecting my first baby, and I'm very excited! I am very much interested in natural parenting options, especially co-sleeping. I do have one question that I haven't really gotten a clear answer on. This may sound like a silly question, and I feel like I should have the answer to this, but all theinformation I've read refers to nighttime sleeping, and I'm curious about where the baby sleeps during the day? Is it alright for the baby to sleep in the bed during the day without their parents, or is a crib used during the day, or do you use a playpen... Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!
Welcome to Mothering I'm happy to see a Canadian on here, too (I'm just moved to Ottawa from Toronto!).
To answer your question, it depends For us, our dd napped in the sling on me for the first four months, she napped either in her crib (the only time she every spent there - not a great investment for us : ) or in our bed (we built a pillow fort on the one side that was open) for the next 14 months or so. Then, when we moved, she got her own room complete with a queen size bed that we put on the floor so now she naps and starts the night out there.
Even when we were using the crib for naps she usually fell asleep in the sling and then we put her in the crib. Since about 14 months, I've been nursing her in bed and she falls asleep there
So, that's our solution!
Our ds slept on my lap, in a bouncy chair, in a snuggly and sometimes in his crib for the first four months or so. He now sleeps on our bed, with pillows on either side. (he is almost 8 months old now) It so happens he likes to be swadled, *still*!!, and stays snug as a bug--though he can easily get out of that blanket. He is a very non-moving creature when he is really out, plus I do have a moniter, (and check on him too). It will take getting to know your baby and where s/he sleeps best.
Co-sleeping is really great, glad you are choosing that route! All the best
With my 1st I just napped when she did for the first couple of months - it was a great and easy recovery.
With my 2nd my 1st was so used to it - she napped with us a couple times a day or he slept in a cradle no cribs for us. When he outgrew the cradle I built a pillow fort for him.
#3 has used the crib more than any. More for his own protection than anything else from his brother LOL But I still napped with him the first week - again recovery.
Now all 3 sleep with me off and on during the night. But I do think the good thing about co sleeping has been not one of them has ever fallen off of a bed. They learn very young how to sleep on a bed. I love that.
Glad to see co-sleeping mamas out there
For the first few months ds would nap on my lap in the living room. It was the perfect opportunity to force myself to relax and either read or watch a little TV or maybe even catch a nap myself. Now that he’s gotten bigger, and I am more likely to try and catch up on house work while he isn’t mobile, I lay him on a quilt on the living room floor for his naps. I don’t have to worry about him rolling off of anything and he is always within eye/ear-shot.
We never owned a crib. When DD was a newborn she mostly napped in my lap, but often I would put her on the couch when she was asleep. I was always very close by, and I set it up so I knew she was safe. Actually, that is how we do it now, even though DD is 8 months and very mobile. She just happens to be a very still napper and takes a while to wake up, and again I'm always nearby so I'm still not worried about her falling off the couch. However, I had planned (and probably will do it when I get around to it!) to make her a little "nap nook" - place a cribsize mattress on the ground in a corner somewhere to put her down on when she naps. I've never liked having her sleeping in a separate room b/c I always worry I can't hear or see her. So this has worked well for us.
I guess you can tell from the above responses that 1) it is entirely possible to deal with naps and never use a crib or playpen and 2) everybody does this a bit differently.
Congrats on your pending arrival! You will *love* cosleeping!
Homeschooling, Homesteading Mama to DD ('02) and DS ('04)
After that, she slept in the big bed with body pillows on either side of her:
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All the best,
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It's been my experience that the baby and I are very aware of each other as we sleep. I don't worry about him falling off the bed because if he were getting anywhere near the edge, I'd know it. But for his part, he never does get near the edge... he wants to be snuggled up to me. If I get out of bed to pee in the middle of the night, he starts sort of feeling around for me in his sleep after just a minute or two.
I don't know how to describe it any better. It's the same reason I am totally confident I'd never roll over on him in my sleep. You're just very attuned to each other as you sleep side by side.
|Originally posted by Sylith
You're just very attuned to each other as you sleep side by side.