Hope I can join in, ladies...
I read NCSS about a month ago, and have been doing the PPO consistently--I'm not sure if it has really made much of a difference in things, though. He is still nursing to sleep, he just doesn't have the nipple as long.
I am really confused about what "problem" we should address first, and hoping a more experienced NCSS-er can help. We have been co-sleeping, but it is starting to become apparent that everyone sleeps much better when he is in his Arm's Reach (he's 3 1/2 months, btw).
So our issues are as follows:
he doesn't nap for more than 30 minutes unless I am sleeping next to him or holding him or slinging him
he wakes up often in the night and usually only settles when nursed
I want to move him into his own bed
He associates going to sleep with nursing
Dh waits tables, and usually doesn't get home until 11 or later, so I am pretty much always the one putting ds to sleep...we kind of have a routine of bath, massage, nurse, but it is hard to tell when to start...sometimes he seems ready for bed at 6, other days as late as 7:30
Also, he is kind of in the middle of her two age ranges. I am kicking myself for not putting him down more often and having dh help more earlier. Oh well
So this has sounded kind of random and confused, cause I am tired and frustrated. I like the flexibility of the NCSS, but at this point, I kind of just want a book that says, do XYZ and you will have sucess!!! (I guess that's what everyone wants!)
So I guess my question is, do I work on breaking the nursing to sleep association first by changing our routine? Or do I keep nursing him to sleep in bed and then transferring him to the co-sleeper? Should I keep doing whatever works for naps until bedtime is better, or work on both at once? I am just confused!!!
TIA for the help
P.S. Dh is rocking him to sleep now, which may work--it's the putting him down part that is tough (last night I got him to stay in the arm's reach after 5 attempts at putting him down. It is easier to nurse him in our bed, then sneak away, but then he is always in our bed...)