positive so far.
Both the kids started out in our bed from day one (dd even in the hospital which drew looks from the nurses - oh well). When dd was about 16 months old though, I was noticing that she was waking up WAAAAAAAAAAAAy more than "normal" (for her) so we tried moving her to her own bed (a double bed in what is now her room) and she's been there ever since. That doesn't mean to say she's not welcome in our bed, but 98% of the time she sleeps much better on her own. My mother tells me I was the same way though.
Ds on the other hand is 2 and still in our room/bed. He's had a toddler bed next to ours since he was about 1 (he's a big kid, so when he kicks it does hurt - he's split my lip in the middle of the night before flopping around). We'd nurse to sleep in the big bed, and then either dh or I would move him to his bed when we came in to go to sleep. Now he'll fall asleep in his bed (I still have to lay with him to go to sleep at night) and stay there all night; occassionally climbing up with us. That's not such a big deal now though as we have a king sized bed now.
My only concern is when baby gets here in a couple of weeks. I know that ds flops around so much that even with dh and I right there I'm afraid of baby getting whomped. It'll be fine I'm sure but just one of those pregnant things I worry about
To me, the family bed means what works best for your family. I don't think it's best if someone (usually Dad) get's displaced and isn't happy about it. That being said, dh has slept on the floor/couch more times than I can count but honest to G*d, I have never heard him complain about it. He'd rather his kids be happy and quite honestly the man could sleep on the driveway and be fine
. Our dd is a PITA to sleep with; she talks in her sleep, kicks, flops and flips, but she will always be welcome in our bed because it's a safe place for her and I would never take that away from her.