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|View Poll Results: Are you sleep deprived?|
|Yes, I have been generally sleep deprived for one year or longer||104||58.76%|
|Yes, I have been generally sleep deprived for less than a year||34||19.21%|
|No, I am not sleep deprived||11||6.21%|
|Occasionally I am sleep deprived for short periods of time but generally no||28||15.82%|
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OK, I just got paranoid that it sounds like I'm advocating CIO -- I'm really not. Our son is very verbal and is able to converse with us about what's going on. Anyway, I'm sure there are a million different ways to approach sleeping, and I guess what I'm advocating is flexibility, responsiveness to one's particular child, and compassion for the needs of everyone. HTH clarify.
I swear I'm going crazy from the lack of sleep.
I won't go into details but my god I am going nucking futs.
Physically I am a mess, too.
I feel like I have gone wrong somewhere, but where?
I don't know what to do.
She doesn't want to sleep.
Now (for the past 2 nights) she has not gone to sleep for the first time until 10 or later. And then wakes up immediately. And again. And again. No matter what we do or don't do or where she sleeps. I'm so angry (at the situation - not at her of course) that I feel enraged in addition to all the other sucky physical and emotional feelings.
F*cking hate this.
I know this is just the emotion of the situation talking but it makes me want to turn back time and teach her to sleep in a crib from day 1. My mother did this with me and supposedly never had to CIO. I remember thinking that my mom missed out on co-sleeping but she also missed out on
GOING INSANE. :
RUINING HER HEALTH. :
and all the other fun stuff I have experienced.
I feel like I can't share this (too much) w/ family b/c although they won't say "I told you so" they will be thinking it. :
So on top of everything I am alienated somewhat from my family.
Truly, can it get any worse? Had a massive fight w/ DH just now and I really think I have gone crazy. It was totally my fault. I can't write how I acted b/c it was both childish and...scary.
I really think you are dealing with a child who has trouble getting through the sleep cycles. One other thing all the eight gazillion books suggest is to to get the child interested in a lovey. A special blanket or stuffed animal that they have in bed and use for comfort. I'm thinking YOU are the lovey at this point, and being mauled as one. Also, do you have a crib? Perhaps you could get her to sleep and put her in for a nap and see what happens? If she has a hard-to-transition sleeping personality, she just may sleep better apart from you, because she may learn to transition without your help if she has a little space of her own. (I'm thinking people must have invented cribs for a reason. I might research that. Why DID they make cribs?)
Drama is right...DD started in with the trying to pinch my boob, latch on/latch off/latch on/pinch pinch pinch routine at some point last night, and I simply "protected" my other boob by putting a hand over it so she couldn't pinch (if I cover it with a shirt she becomes hysterical, but sometimes will forget about pinching if my hand is there). She freaked out. Shrieked as if I were sticking pins into her.
So WE are always snappy at each other and nice and gentle to Nora. But we both are finding it harder and harder to have the appropriately gentle tone at 1/3/5 in the morning when she is screaming because she can't pinch and scratch mama's boobie. :
My marriage has taken a hit because we have had little time together and trying to have sex is hard to say the least.