I am sorry I had to write because I am so angry!!!
I have totally opposite opinions on mothering than my mother in law. Lately the argument has been-Why am I PAYING for a homebirth when I can have a hospitol birth for free. Usually we both state state our arguments and neither of us budges on our opposing opinions.
But now she's fighting dirty!
Last night she called and told DH that DR. phil had a whole thing on cosleeping and that it was all positive. She kept going on and on about how great it said cosleeping is. She than said tell laurie to go to his website and read it.
Immediately I was annoyed. First I felt I didn't need Dr. Phil to tell me how to mother and second why is his opinion worth anything to her any way when she wouldn't listen to all the research I had cited to her on the benefits of the family bed.
Well out of curiosity I went to dr. Phil's website and I could not believe what my mother in law had done.
IT WAS ALL NEGATIVE!! HE IS AGAINST COSLEEPING!!!
I was so angry! Angry that she had tried to trick me and her son! Angry that I waisted my time on such $%#@&^%! Angry that every time I talk to her she is assaulting my beliefs.
Her beautiful grandson by the way has coslept from birth(now3) been breastfed on demand(continues to nurse)been clothed diapered and never been left with anyone besides immediate family. She says he is soooo smart, healthy, and loving, yet I am doing everything wrong.
I am trying not to let this affect me, but right now being pregnant and sensitive I don't feel I am not even going to bother talking to her anymore! I guess what I want to know is....
Why are others who don't cosleep SO BOTHERED by the family bed?
I have never put down another mom for choosing not to cosleep. I realize it is a personal choice and what really matters is that the child's needs are met regardless of where they sleep.
I wish the media would leave cosleeping and mothering in general in the hearts of mothers!!!
Sorry if I am rambling!! I had to vent!! thanks for listening!
Laurie
I have totally opposite opinions on mothering than my mother in law. Lately the argument has been-Why am I PAYING for a homebirth when I can have a hospitol birth for free. Usually we both state state our arguments and neither of us budges on our opposing opinions.
But now she's fighting dirty!
Last night she called and told DH that DR. phil had a whole thing on cosleeping and that it was all positive. She kept going on and on about how great it said cosleeping is. She than said tell laurie to go to his website and read it.
Immediately I was annoyed. First I felt I didn't need Dr. Phil to tell me how to mother and second why is his opinion worth anything to her any way when she wouldn't listen to all the research I had cited to her on the benefits of the family bed.
Well out of curiosity I went to dr. Phil's website and I could not believe what my mother in law had done.
IT WAS ALL NEGATIVE!! HE IS AGAINST COSLEEPING!!!
I was so angry! Angry that she had tried to trick me and her son! Angry that I waisted my time on such $%#@&^%! Angry that every time I talk to her she is assaulting my beliefs.
Her beautiful grandson by the way has coslept from birth(now3) been breastfed on demand(continues to nurse)been clothed diapered and never been left with anyone besides immediate family. She says he is soooo smart, healthy, and loving, yet I am doing everything wrong.
I am trying not to let this affect me, but right now being pregnant and sensitive I don't feel I am not even going to bother talking to her anymore! I guess what I want to know is....
Why are others who don't cosleep SO BOTHERED by the family bed?
I have never put down another mom for choosing not to cosleep. I realize it is a personal choice and what really matters is that the child's needs are met regardless of where they sleep.
I wish the media would leave cosleeping and mothering in general in the hearts of mothers!!!
Sorry if I am rambling!! I had to vent!! thanks for listening!
Laurie