I have always been in awe of Mamas who says their kids are in bed by 8-9pm and perhaps a bit envious. DS never gets to bed before 10:30 at the earliest. DS goes to bed late as well. Last night, he was up until 11:30pm. He does take a nap during the day. He is home with DH during the day.
I am damned if I do and damned if I don't. If he takes a nap (2-4pm), he is up late. Sometimes as late as 12:30am.
If he skips the nap, sure he may go to bed around 8:30pm, but he sleeps HORRIBLY and is up several times during the night waking up for various reasons.
After 10:30pm, if DS refuses to sleep, I make a pallet on the couch and let him watch PBS Sprout Good Night Show and *I* go lay down in the next room with my eyes open listening out for him. Just resting because I need it.
When he gets sleepy, he turns it off and comes and get in the bed with me and finally fall asleep.
My health is declining (my body is so tired it's not functioning) and this is working for me right now.
Oh, I am a full time WOHM so I have to be up at 6:00am.
Once he starts school, I think he will start going to bed by 8-9pm on his own accord.