|If I had been lazy like before to save the extra few minutes to go back to sleep I would have nursed her 5 times last night in bed, instead it was only 2 and she's figuring out valuable skills at 5 months without CIO.
I'm concerned with this statement. Would you be willing to clarify, because I'm confused. I'm not quite sure what *skills* a five month old could possibly be learning in the scenario you'd described. Coping? Did you mean
to imply that those of us who nurse babies to sleep, with babies next to us, are lazy? If so, I'd prefer to be called "relaxed."
As I'm sure we all know, human babies are the most dependent of all mammals. We're born before
our time so we can fit through during birth
Nine months in
mama; nine months out on
mama. Babies are happiest when they are in the arms or otherwise touching their mothers, happy to nurse whenever and wherever. It's normal.
I'm offering my opinion, not to judge, simply to pass along what I've learned (the much harder way than having 500 AP mamas come to my aid
) is that small babies simply need their mommies--day and
night. Sometimes our expectations are far away from the reality of mothering an infant.
I would suggest attempting to let go of the worry about how often she's waking, nursing, or doing
anything. Just be. Enjoy her. Find ways to get your needs met during the day to re-energize your nighttime efforts.
Consider reframing your time together at night--rocking, nursing, not as a means to an end---getting her to sleep--but as sacred, special time you'll never get back. It's not going to make the exhaustion go away, but it can help w/mindset
|Raising a child demands the best that you have to give. It takes personal sacrifice, a phrase we don't often hear much anymore. When you decide to bring a child into the world, you are signing on for a lifetime commitment.
Mothering means being on call twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week....It is the most all-consuming, frustrating, rewarding, and important job you will ever do. May you give it an effort worthy of your children."
~~Peggy O'Mara, Natural Family Living