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#1 of 48 Old 03-03-2007, 04:37 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Has anyone tried the No Cry Sleep Solution? Did it work for you?
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Well, I said "yes," but I think that's a bit misleading. The poll's options are a bit misleading, actually, since it's not really the "solution" that the book's title promises (I suppose the book's title is misleading too, then!). We've been trying the various strategies (esp the "Pantley Pull-Off") for about 7 months now and I think they've definitely resulted in a major improvement over the long term. ds no longer nurses TO sleep: when he's done nursing, he unlatches and rolls over and goes to sleep on his own. So bedtime is much, much easier than it used to be, and nighttime wakings are less disruptive. But if you mean, did it get him to sleep 10 hours at night, then no. He still wakes up a lot, but the book has definitely been helpful.

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No. We call it the No Cry, No Sleep, No Solution book. There's no "solution" - just random things that might help. And if they help you, great. But there was really nothing in there for us.
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Ditto.
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both of my older ones slept a lot better after doing the pull-off thing... woke up a lot less. great book imo.
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Well, I said "yes," but I think that's a bit misleading. The poll's options are a bit misleading, actually, since it's not really the "solution" that the book's title promises (I suppose the book's title is misleading too, then!). We've been trying the various strategies (esp the "Pantley Pull-Off") for about 7 months now and I think they've definitely resulted in a major improvement over the long term. ds no longer nurses TO sleep: when he's done nursing, he unlatches and rolls over and goes to sleep on his own. So bedtime is much, much easier than it used to be, and nighttime wakings are less disruptive. But if you mean, did it get him to sleep 10 hours at night, then no. He still wakes up a lot, but the book has definitely been helpful.
If you've been trying the PPO for 7 mo's, don't you think that your dc may just be getting older and "solving" his own sleep problems? I dunno, I like the book but it seems like basically the advice is to just wait and then they'll grow out of it.

Don't mind me, just bitter that no one can tell me how to make my child sleep w/out waking up 5x+ a night!
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Don't mind me, just bitter that no one can tell me how to make my child sleep w/out waking up 5x+ a night!
I hear ya. I keep thinking there has to be SOMETHING between CIO and just waiting for her to outgrow it.
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It didn't work for us. Absolutely none of the methods worked (and I followed it to the letter), which just made me frantic. And I got obsessed with the clock--I was either awake wondering why the heck the methods weren't working, or I was awake celebrating that she just slept 30 minutes longer than the last stretch. Crazy.
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If you've been trying the PPO for 7 mo's, don't you think that your dc may just be getting older and "solving" his own sleep problems?
Yeah, I gotta agree with that analysis.
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The pull off worked. The rest did not. I never had much trouble getting ds to STAY sleeping, I had problems GETTING him to sleep. A baby who lays in bed for 1.5 hours kicking his legs and staring at you in the dark-- I didn't feel that she delt with that situation. The book seemed to assume the child would fall asleep, then wake up frequently.
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The pull off worked. The rest did not. I never had much trouble getting ds to STAY sleeping, I had problems GETTING him to sleep. A baby who lays in bed for 1.5 hours kicking his legs and staring at you in the dark-- I didn't feel that she delt with that situation. The book seemed to assume the child would fall asleep, then wake up frequently.
OK, now that is interesting. I am going to have to reread it because I felt totally the opposite--it was for people whose kids wouldn't sleep, therefore I didn't find it helpful since we use the magic boob for sleep. I just don't want to have to use it every 2 hrs!

Sadly, I'm beginning to think there is no way to make anyone fall or stay asleep. Some of us seem to have been blessed w/ sleep challenged LOs.
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If you've been trying the PPO for 7 mo's, don't you think that your dc may just be getting older and "solving" his own sleep problems?

Yep, probably true. I'll clarify and say that the pull off thing was helpful, but the rest really is tips, rather than a "solution." It was no help at all for naps, which is what I really wanted...time was the only "solution" there.

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OK, now that is interesting. I am going to have to reread it because I felt totally the opposite--it was for people whose kids wouldn't sleep, therefore I didn't find it helpful since we use the magic boob for sleep. I just don't want to have to use it every 2 hrs!

Sadly, I'm beginning to think there is no way to make anyone fall or stay asleep. Some of us seem to have been blessed w/ sleep challenged LOs.
Well, I think I agree with you. She seemed to gloss over getting them to fall asleep-- it was either nursing or rocking or whatever, just have a routine (which we did, but it didn't seem to help at all) but had tips on how to get them to nurse less frequently or shorter duration, to not be attached all night. I didn't think she dealt with the child who would nurse, rock, read a book, sing a song, take a bath, whatever and is still awake 2 hours later!!!!
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Nope didn't work for DD but I often mention the book in mainstream circles just so the info is out there b/c she does talk about how babies sleep and it does utt he gentleness idea out there. I don't recommend it on here b/c it is a lesson in futility...charts??? who has time for charts at 3 am? and again at 3:45 and again 4 and again and again... I was too tired!!
But in reality I feel like CIO babies aren't sleeping either it's just that their parents are.

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Well - this is all a bummer. I am reading it now and was really hoping (praying) for the "magic" solution - I guess I shouldn't expect it now.
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I voted yes.
But it is in no way a quick fix. IMO the only quick fix is CIO and obviously I didn't want to try that route. We are no where near sleeping through the night at 6 months but as pps have mentioned the suggestions have helped us have a more pleasant bedtime and less disruptive wakings.
I have posted on this board and other forums about our sleep problems and the only advice I have gotten is to wait it out and that he will out grow it. That was not working for us at all. Both DH and I were tired and frustrated and close to caving on the CIO position, but NCSS gave us some suggestions and other things to try. Most importantly I think that this book has helped me set realistic expectations and to have a better attitude about everything.
So I definitely say it's worth a try. You should be able to get it from a library if you are unsure about buying the book.

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I am going to try and I'll get back to this topic soon
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I voted yes because it was helpful in making me think of more things to try. The pull-off thing works for us but ONLY if I do it right before I lay her down. If I let unlatch then continue rocking, she wakes up the second I lay her down.

There are other things in it that we've adapted, which I think is the point of the book: there is no one fix for every child. You take whatever works for you and go from there.

But overall I liked the book. It made me think, for sure, and the suggestions didn't run counter to our approach for parenting (unlike so many other sleep books out there).

We're still nursing to sleep but not nursing as much all night (her suggestions about when a baby might just need comfort but not necessarily nursing was a big eye-opener for us and was accurate in our case).

Overall I was pleased with it, though it didn't SOLVE our sleep problems, it definitely offered some tips on how to IMPROVE things, which has been a big help overall.

I don't think there is any book or approach out there that works 100% of the time, honestly, since every child is different and their sleep needs/patterns change as they grow. What we took away from our reading of this book was that the key in our case was being able to stick with what works, but adapt on the fly as needed.

'Course I probably could have figured that out, if I weren't so dang sleep deprived all the time, and saved the $$ we spent on the book.
Either way, it's still the first book I recommend when someone asks if I know of one that might help, especially if they're considering CIO.

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I voted yes
at 11 months DS was still up 3-6x a night to nurse
I used a few different techniques in the book, including the pull off and by 12.5 months he was sleeping through the night, and by using the NCSS for Toddlers he was putting himself to sleep in the family bed by 22 months (started techniques for that at 20 months when we weaned because I had rotavirus and my milk dried up)
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There are other things in it that we've adapted, which I think is the point of the book: there is no one fix for every child. You take whatever works for you and go from there.

But overall I liked the book. It made me think, for sure, and the suggestions didn't run counter to our approach for parenting (unlike so many other sleep books out there).

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YEP "worked" for us but the title is misleading in that its not one solution but a whole lot of gentle ideas, that in a combination that works for you, may lead to a solution. I am glad that it is titled tthe NCSS because it catches the interest of those who might otherwise sleeptrain there baby.

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I learned a lot from NCSS. Here is an old post of mine about adding sleep associations and other ideas and issues related to getting to sleep and staying asleep. Some are about toddlers, rather than infants. Hope something helps.

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We have experienced a lot of challenges with ds's night wakening
through the years. Here are a bunch of ideas that I have accumulated.
Some work at different times, some are now obsolete, some are routines
for us. I hope something helps you all find more restful sleep.
Apparently, Kurcinka has a new book "Sleepless in America", which is
supposed to have some more ideas. I am not sure how consensual her
suggestions might be though.
http://www.amazon.com/Sleepless-Amer.../dp/0060736011

Our major issue stems around food intolerances which affect our son's
behavior and disturbs his sleep. We have mostly identified and
elminiated them. You might check The Feingold Diet on-line for
specifics. But dairy (including casein and whey) causes him to be
aggressive and less able to process information about other people's
needs and boundaries. Artificial colors red and yellow and high
fructose corn syrup and foods naturally high in salicylates also cause
hyper type behaviors and loud vocalizations (loud noise, loud voices,
loud forceful talking). If any of these are consummed late in the day,
he has more trouble falling asleep and has increased night wakening.
Wheat used to disturb ds's sleep, also.

Offering less to drink late, after 6 or 8pm might help some children.
And I have heard that dairy before bed is highly correllated with
night waking and night bedwetting. Soy seemed to disturb ds from
settling and resting for long periods as well. A protein food helps
our son settle for the night, like peanut butter and some OJ. Sugar
seems to hype some kids up. Obviously avoiding caffeine, chocolate. We
generally don't consume chocolate after 3-4 pm, if we can avoid it.

We use an aromatherapy called "Peace & Calming" which helps all of us
settle down for the night. It is part of our nighttime 'atmosphere'.
http://www.aroma-essence.com/catalog/peace-calming.html I put a couple
of drops on his feet or back, or on my wrists, and cuddle ds and he
will settle. Another thing that ds still at 4.5 liked was getting in
the sling and being held closely when he was overtired, but not
wanting to sleep. The chest pressure helps to center him. Bouncing,
rocking and swinging help to soothe too. I have also used Melatonin
(herbal) recently after a few late nights so that I would get right to
sleep. I have also used White Chestnut, a Bach flower remedy which
helps 'when thoughts go round and round in your head'.

Another thing that I found recently, is to be sure to get some
sunlight during the day at regular times to enhance the biorhythms and
hormones. And dimming the lights earlier in the evening helps
melatonin production, apparently. We have also tried melatonin
supplementation about a dozen times when we have had inadvertant days
of food intolerance exposure disrupting our sleep patterns. Melatonin
is great at helping our son get to sleep. If he has that second wind
and winds back up, he can be up for hours and hours. Apparently,
melatonin levels are low in hyperactive and autistic children. But,
there are some hormonal and immune system issues associated with its
use. So, we are very reluctant to rely on it. We've also noticed that
if it is given to get to sleep, he wakes up after 5 hours or so and
has a hard time getting back to sleep.

Rescue Remedy liquid or RR cream helps when everyone is too exhausted
to be quiet and settled. The cream helps you both. Outdoor play in
daylight helps our son sleep more soundly. A familar video helps.
Creating a routine of sleep associations helps. Certainly not
immediately but over time. Cuddle, blanket, lovey, specific chair,
song, video, rock, sling, pat, shussh, night time story. Car rides as
last resort. Caution they become habits too easily.

Cod liver oil (essential fatty acids) is supposed to have calming
factors too. Ds LOVES Nordic Naturals' peach flavored cod liver oil. I
heard that calcium in foods or supplements might help. Lavender helps
to soothe and calm. Especially in bath water or as a lotion or rub.
And transitions, strange places, or busy overstimulating
outings/activities energize and disturb our son from settling for at
least 2-4 hours after returning. He seems to need to process all the
going on while doing some familar free play before he can stop and get
quiet enough to fall asleep. So, we try to avoid exciting stuff in the
evening. Dh coming home late seems to delay ds from winding down for
the evening also. He seems to be waiting for him.

I have heard that Epsom salt baths have a calming effect due to the
magnesium in them. And it is available at chain pharmacies. It
apparently has a detoxifying effect also. Have iron levels been
discussed? I am ambivalent about trying iron supplements for our
little guy due to toxic potential. But from what I have read, iron
deficiency is related to hyperactivity/restlessness. I believe it was
Magnesium, Calcium, Zinc and Iron which are attributed to
restlessness. I've heard the best thing is to get some magnesium
citrate powder and take 3 - 4 times a day for a while. We've been
using Natural Calm for magnesium supplementation and it seems to help.

The No Cry Sleep Solution helped us to create additional sleep
associations. Now ds will just cuddle his lovey, I give him a pat and
a shussh and we both go back to sleep.
Restful dreams,

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Here is another old post about sleep issues:
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Ok, here are the rest of my tricks up the sleeve. LOL Another old post
about nipple weaning, AKA the Pantley Method.

Ds woke every 60-90 minutes too for the first 18-21 months until I
read No Cry Sleep Solution. I understood the idea of getting the
nipple out of his mouth but the reality was quite a bit harder. It
took almost three months for this to succeed. At times, I figured
trying to change seemed so much harder than just letting him nurse to
sleep every 60-90 minutes all night long. But I kept at it for one
week and found that several times in the week he DID fall back asleep
with out the nipple. And I swear it had never happened before NCSS.
So, that gave me some hope. Then, the second week it happened only
several times and again I felt hopeless. And sleepless because at the
same time I was doing MORE sleep associations which were just making
me MORE awake and MORE tired.

Oh, how I wished that I had done the MORE sleep associations when he
had been an infant. But I didn't have the energy or the desire not to
just peacefully nurse him to sleep. That worked and we both loved it.
Until, I was so sleep deprived that I needed sleep more than I wanted
to just keep waking to nurse him back to sleep. Of course, we co-slept
or I'd have died of exhaustion well before 18 months. But it wasn't
that ds wasn't just dozing peacefully back to sleep, *I* wasn't dozing
back to sleep despite exhaustion and probably due to the self talk of
"I want to sleep! I don't want to wake up every hour or two any more!"

So, we kept adding sleep associations: I would tap my finger on his
head softly with a heartbeat cadence; I had added a lullaby, started
making a shusshing sound at regular intervals, added a lovey which we
always held while nursing; held him in a specific way, cradled his
head against my arm for slight pressure on it; placed a heavy hand on
his chest to mimic holding him close; gently delatched him BUT DID NOT
MOVE A MUSCLE continuing ALL the added sleep associations; and waited
TEN MINUTES until he was deeply asleep and then I would slowly and
gently set him on the bed beside me and keep doing all the added sleep
associations except the nursing for several minutes. Then gradually
stopping the lullaby, then stopping the head pressure and then
stopping the tapping cadence then stopping the gentle chest pressure
and then stopping the shusshing and the lovey was his companion.

Then when he awakened we did the whole thing again every time for
about four weeks until gradually the delatching routine became
quicker. And after about two more months, when he awakened
occasionally the other sleep associations were enough and gradually
over the next several months I slowly withdrew them except to just
place my heavy hand on his chest or head and shussh him back to sleep,
sometimes with the heart beat tap, tap, tap cadence. But, he still
awakened to nurse about three times a night but it was a much shorter
time awake because all the signals were associated with sleep and he
dozed off more quickly. And I got back to sleep more quickly too.

So, the NCSS allowed me to ultimately get more sleep but in the "short
run" of the first couple of months of adding sleep associations, I had
much less sleep!
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I'm curious. When my granddaughter was an infant she was a sort of self-stimulator: she would wiggle and kick and keep herself awake, even when exhausted. Her mother figured out that gently swaddling her in a blanket so she couldn't wiggle as much would settle her down to sleep in a few minutes. This may have been one of the reasons slings also helped her sleep, very comfy and no wiggle room.

She is a super good sleeper now as a seven year old. She can even fall asleep when her little brother is talking and singing (they share a bedroom).
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Didn't work for us at all and I was religious about it. IMO there are only 3 ways to have a child who sleeps through the night:

1. CIO in some form (even crying in arms)
2. Been blessed with a child who naturally sleeps through
3. Wait until your child is ready

I don't believe in 1, 2 didn't happen, so I guess it's 3 for us
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I voted no, but that's not entirely correct. I got the book after ds2 started sleeping through the night. We did these methods on our own instinctively. I nightweaned him when I was pregnant b/c I needed the sleep and dh would walk or cuddle him to sleep.

Nothing works on ds3. Dh can walk him to sleep, but he wakes up every hour or 2 (every half hour last night b/c he had a fever. and dh needs sleep more than I do. I function pretty well w/out it, he doesn't, and he has to work.
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Here is another old post about sleep issues: HTH, Pat
I'm sorry if you explained this in your post, but were you nursing in a chair/elsewhere and then setting him asleep on the bed? If you were cosleeping, didn't he wake up and want to nurse when you came to bed?

Thanks,your post was helpful--I'm desperately trying to connect the dots before we all lose it from sleep deprivation.
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I'm sorry if you explained this in your post, but were you nursing in a chair/elsewhere and then setting him asleep on the bed? If you were cosleeping, didn't he wake up and want to nurse when you came to bed?

Thanks,your post was helpful--I'm desperately trying to connect the dots before we all lose it from sleep deprivation.
No, I couldn't move him that far. I was sitting in the bed, nursing, gently removed the nipple. Did. Not. Move. Another. Inch. until ds was asleep for exactly 10 minutes. Then I could set him down on the bed next to me, while continuing other sleep associations (tapping, shusshing, gentle chest pressure, stroking his forehead, etc.), and he'd remain asleep.

Gradually, the other sleep associations were all that were needed to resettle him, without nursing. But, it was a very attentive and engaged process of delatching. For a period of time, this same l-o-n-g process of delatching was repeated with EACH night wakening. But, the resettling was shortened gradually as the other sleep associations induced the sleep. We'd couldn't have lived without co-sleeping. Ds is very sensory seeking to this day. Some babies can't tolerate the stimulation of added sleep associations and resettle.

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We'd couldn't have lived without co-sleeping. Ds is very sensory seeking to this day. Some babies can't tolerate the stimulation of added sleep associations and resettle.

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Yes, so very helpful! I'm printing out all your posts to share w/ DH. One more quesiton about your last statement:
Some babies can't tolerate the stimulation of added sleep associations and resettle

I'm not sure I understand--how does that tie into cosleeping? Sorry to be so : --I need sleep!
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Yes, so very helpful! I'm printing out all your posts to share w/ DH. One more quesiton about your last statement:
Some babies can't tolerate the stimulation of added sleep associations and resettle

I'm not sure I understand--how does that tie into cosleeping? Sorry to be so : --I need sleep!
Well, a friend's baby was sensory overloaded by cosleeping. And it is a touchy subject here, but each baby is different.

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Well, a friend's baby was sensory overloaded by cosleeping. And it is a touchy subject here, but each baby is different.

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That's our story. I cosleep 1/2 the night now and it works really well. If we spent the whole night together, he'd be up so much more. This way we all get more sleep and there's no crying.

As far as NCSS, it didn't work for us. She talked about putting pressure under the baby's chin when you pull them off the nipple...this just pissed of my ds to the extreme. What works for him is pressure on the top of his head. I just keep my arm over his head and apply a little bit of pressure when he starts to stir...it settles him right back down.

So what I got from it is that you might stumble upon things that help over time and you just have to keep trying different things to find what works. That's what I've been sticking with now and my babe is 10mos and finally becoming a better sleeper.
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