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Dh's cousin and his wife lost their 6 week old baby the other day.:

They live in Nunavut, she is Inuit and they and her extendid family live a very traditional life. As such their dd slept in the bed with them. She was sleeping with her mom when she passed away.

I'm realy worried that she is going to be told that she smothered her baby. It's hard enough to loose a child but to think that it is your fault is unbearable imo.

I'm looking for information on the safety of the family bed (I personaly don't need convincing, just so you know) and anything that refutes the conection between sids and co-sleeping.

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anyone?

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I'm so sorry about your friend's baby. So sad, and you are right- to be blamed for it just makes it worse. I would send her to askdrsears.com, or to this site, which has a pretty good article http://www.babyreference.com/Cosleep...SFactSheet.htm
Cosleeping reduces the risk of SIDS, so she was doing the best she could. Sadly, there is nothing that is 100%, but it was not her fault, and she needs support from people like you, who know better. She is lucky to have you for a friend.
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I'm sorry for their loss - it must be so hard without having people possibly blame you for the tragedy. As for resources: only have what Google brings up ( though I could probably search for some info here too)

http://www.babyreference.com/Cosleep...SFactSheet.htm

from Dr.Sears:
http://www.parenting.com/parenting/a...587349,00.html
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http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp
" CO-SLEEPING AND SIDS

Since research suggests that infants at risk of SIDS have a diminished arousal response during sleep, it seems logical that anything that increases the infant's arousability from sleep or the mother's awareness of her infant during sleep may decrease the risk of SIDS. That's exactly what sleeping with your baby can do. Here are the vital roles a sleep-sharing mother plays:

DR. SEARS SIDS HYPOTHESIS:

I believe that in most cases SIDS is a sleep disorder, primarily a disorder of arousal and breathing control during sleep. All the elements of natural mothering, especially breastfeeding and sharing sleep, benefit the infant's breathing control and increase the mutual awareness between mother and infant so that their arousability is increased and the risk of SIDS decreased. "


The reports that I can find that say " Don't do this - are put out by the AAP - but they also say to put the baby to sleep with a pacifier : and the Consumer Product Safety Commission who based their findings on death certificate information that did not take into account many factors that could have led to the deaths in question ( co-sleeping location, parents' intoxication levels, etc)

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there is an article, I'll see if I can find it, that found the same infection in every baby whose death was labeled SIDS in the study. EVERY single one. I'm off to look for it, be back to post the link in a sec...

here's two that mention it.

http://sids-network.org/experts/shock_bateria.htm


http://www.abc.net.au/science/news/stories/s643571.htm
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Thankyou! I should have know to look at the Sears site.

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Please remember, smothering is NOT SIDS. The ladies left you great reference sites.

Although this page refers mainly to the tummy-sleeping myth, there are lots of references to medical explanations for crib death. Although most are still mysteries: http://blog.myspace.com/familymemories

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You might want to hold off on sending her info unless/until someone actually does accuse her of smothering the baby, or you might cause unintended anxiety and questioning just by trying to console her, if you know what I mean. Just a thought -- I'm sure you know how to best approach this horribly sad situation.

I've seen a couple of programs on SIDS that link it to an underdeveloped part of the brain, which keeps the baby from realizing that his oxygen supply is low, so he doesn't turn his head or whatever to get a bigger breath. I think it was on the Discovery Channel, but you might find more by googling.
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That's a good point Kate. I'll hold off but I want to have info on hand.

And also good point Sandra, at this point all we know is that the baby was in bed with her mother when she died. (somehow I find that more comforting than a baby passing in a crib by themselves but that's just me)

Dh's aunt(the babies grandmother) and mother have brought up the smothering idea to us (dh and I). I have no idea if it's been mentioned to dh's cousin and his wife. I don't actually know them. I met the cousin once, he was at my wedding. Shortly after that he moved north for work. It was supposed to be short term but he met his wife, fell in love with her and her culture and has been there ever since. They also have a son who is I think 3.

Like I said in my first post, she is Inuit and they live in a very traditional village. I doubt that bed sharing is unusual there. My main worry is that any corener investigating the death is likely to be a) from outside that culture and b)new to his/her profession (doing their time in the north so they can get back south again seems to be a common theam) and therfore be somewhat inexperianced and trying to prove themselves. (kwim?)

I'm worried that she will be told that she smothered her baby simply because she was in bed with the baby when she died. Without other signes of trama, smothering can look just like sids and vice versa.

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