I don't know where to begin, so sorry if I start rambling. My daughter is 10 mos old. She sleeps with us, I mean me. My dh works nights and I am so used to him not being there when I sleep for 4 nights a week that on his nights off we are both comfortable with him in the spare bedroom. Weird to a lot of people I am sure, but it's not that bad. The problem I am having is with my dd. She has very unpredictable sleep patterns. Here is how today worked out for example: We woke up at 11am. She napped from 12:30-2. She napped again from 5:30-7. Then at 9 she went to sleep again. I thought this was a little early but she was extremely fussy so I thought she just needed more sleep or something since she's been practicing walking and other new things. Anways, she sleeps from 9pm-12am on and off. Finally at midnight I stop nursing her b/c she's been nap nursing the whole time. And I am telling you, if I nurse her for hours at a time for some reason I get really frustrated and uneasy. So at midnight when I cut her off from nursing (bc I realize by now she is not going to sleep for the night and continueing lying in bed is only going to prolong her bedtime even longer). Anyway it's 12:30 now and she is happily playing with no intention of going back to sleep until 5am I am sure. This happens a lot. For a few weeks she did have a predictable 4 hour schedule which she set herself. But it seems that *anytime* that I leave the house, that schedule gets disrupted somehow and I end up having these long long long long nights. So I've found myself isolating myself and never going anywhere for days at a time to ensure that I will be able to go to sleep at a decent hour. This is driving me crazy!!!!!!!! WHen she stays up so late she isn't fussing or whatever, she just wants to play. I know that if she didn't have AP parents she would be put in a crib (if we had one) to cio. I just don't understand how to get into a predictable routine that is child-led. I know I must be doing something wrong, I don't know ANY ONE ELSE who's baby stays up until 4 or 5 am. Also how do you maintain some kind of routine and be able to leave the house? My dh works nights so I am here by myself. Nightime Parenting has been the single most hardest aspect of parenting for me these past 10mos b/c I've been having to do it myself. Thanks for any advice,tips or suggestions.