Ok... so I've been reading a bunch of sleep books lately and I'm having a moment of horrible mama guilt. I KNOW my 2 year old is not getting enough sleep... and the books i'm reading are saying that babies/kids NEED enough sleep for brain development, reg development, etc.
My 2 year old is really smart - his intelligence has never been in question - but he is speech delayed. Last time he was evaluated was right before he turned two, and he was at a 10 month level.
He was very high needs as an infant, always wanting to be held/worn. We coslept the first year or so for the most part, then weaned him to his own bed where I would join him once he woke... we've tried all sorts of stuff to help him sleep better, and he's NEVER slept well - he does a lot of tossing/turning, waking throughout... I'm trying not to blame myself for causing bad sleep habits here...
So, our current setup is that he goes to sleep in his bed and dh joins him once he wakes up the first time. Now, this is not really working because dh is getting NO sleep (but we have a 3 month old, so i can't do it, and kicking dh out and sleeping with both boys doesnt work because the 2 year old won't sleep through the baby's waking, and he won't share me once he wakes and the few times we've tried it have been nothing short of disastrous)
He does have a routine before he goes to bed (pjs/diaper, brush teeth, goodnight kisses, story,lights out - sleep. and dh lays with him til he falls asleep.) That's never totally smooth - it can take an hour for him to fall asleep - but then once he falls asleep he'll sleep solidly for a few hours and then it gets really choppy/whiny/waky ... and there goes his good sleep.
So... (if you've read this far..thanks!)
My questions... do you believe that not getting good sleep hampers development?
If you do, and you can't find a way to acheive good sleep - do you think its enough of an issue to warrant trying cio? (im usually adamantly against it, but i also don't want to stunt him either, yanno ...and dh is miserable and needs to get more sleep but nothing we're trying is working)
Anyway...thanks for the advice!!