We don't have any rules, so nothing to break.
We just go to bed as normal...we sleep no differently with kids than without.
We still have our memory foam on our pillow-top bed (CA King), use our flannel comforters (though I only cover DD to her waist if she’s cold), DH and I both use pillows and the cat’s on the corner of my side of the bed! I worried a lot about the “rules” but never changed anything, otherwise DH and I would have never slept! We started co-sleeping when DD was 2 weeks. I’m just careful about how she’s covered and she’s always on her side next to me or on her back- never on her tummy.
When I get up in the morning I’ll leave dd in bed asleep until she wakes. She hasn’t moved yet when I’m not in bed (she only rolls to get to me!) and if she’s close to the side, I’ll add pillows just in case. So far, so good!
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We sleep with a down comforter, and lots of pillows.
I would notice if something happened and DS wasn't ok though...cause my boob wouldn't be in his mouth.
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he is 6 months and can roll over so i kinda think u can relax a bit at this point, maybe....? don't know. I read No cry sleep solution recently and it said all these rules too...made me feel really guilty for not following t hem.
So we always did what felt right to us-which was to break all the rules.
I guess the biggest violation is we nap on the couch. Our couch is pretty firm and I lay agains the back pillows/cushion crevice and he is on the outside. I have a solid cube-shaped table that I pull up next to the coch to block him in. We both are always on our side (tummy-tummy) or on our backs.
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I've always slept with my kids since newborns, on a pillowtop matress, with our pillows & blankets, and even with baby in between DH & I. I've always put them down for naps on our bed too.
My babies have always slept right in the crook of my arm, and I'm a super light sleeper, so I could never imagine not being aware of them at any point.
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Erm...I think we broke all the rules everyday. DD slept between DH and I, under a blanket pulled up to her middle, and he and I both used pillows.
I know a broke them. Infact just letting DS sleep on his stomach is one and he has been doing it since 5 days old. I always had the comforters and pillows on the bed, never removed them. In the early months though I used a separate blanket for him. Not to mention, when he wakes at night I just latch him on and drift back into "la la land".
I also use pillows. Seriously-I'm expected to sleep with no pillow? I wouldn't even be able to fall asleep and if I was able to, they'd have to haul me out on a stretcher and take me straight to the chiro. Besides, the baby is never near the pillow anyway!
I don't drink, however I do smoke and do not always wash my hands and face before coming to bed (and I normally have a smoke before bed). I do not smoke in the house and my children are not exposed to second hand smoke, so I'm really not concerned about it. I've heard about babies being affected by inhaling my breath after I smoke, but I haven't read any hard facts about this being a serious threat.
Pillows? - check!
Blankets? - check!
Baby naps alone on bed with pillows to stop him from rolling off? - check!
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In our bed we totally use both pillows and blankets and he has a small blanket in the crib. For the first few months of this arrangement I was sure I was the most irresponsible mama on earth but it's worked really well for our family.
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He sleeps with the covers on him some times, we sleep with pillows (even though he sleeps on the mattress), and when he naps I put a pillow next to him and a rail on the other side. We do have our king mattress and box springs on the floor though.
One thing I feel that is important if your going to let them take naps in you bed is to teach them (asap-when they're crawling) how to turn around and slide off the bed on thier tummy. Once he learned how to do that, I felt much better. Oh, and we get off the bed every morning that way for practice.
i feel better with her next to me. even in the co-sleeper i dont feel secure - what can i say? we both sleep better that way~
The one rule I would never break was alcohol or medication. Neither DH or I ever consumed anything that would cause us to sleep more soundly, or be less aware than normal.
I'm starting to think about transitioning DS to his crib, but that's mostly because I want to cuddle with DH.
Whatever, I don't care what the rules say, the safest place for DD is sleeping right next to me!
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1. No getting drunk or high or stupid and then sleeping with baby
2. Never wake a sleeping baby (but a cuddle and a kiss is OK)
Slightly off topic: I hate that some "safe recommendations" are that only teh mother should sleep next to baby, because father can't possibly be as attunded to his child as mother. What baloney. Depends on the person of course! In our house, DH sleeps next to DD, and has done so since she stopped BF, and he is totally in sync with her, while I am snoring away. Also, The NCSS, which is a fine book imo, has the whole first chapter dedicated to safe co-sleeping. The most boring, cover my a** pile of manure I have ever read. DD hates blankets, sheets and duvets, so I don't need to worry about her being under them!
My rules are basic: no medication or alcohol before bed ( I do drink a glass of vino with dinner usually), and I try to keep the blankets at our waist and one firm pillow out of his way. I dress warm enough so that I won't pull the blankets up, but he'd holler if I did anyway. My husband will shimmy down for the same reason. When he was brand new I think I was more careful, or rather just more paranoid.
I think the main danger is rolling out of the bed. Ours is on the floor and is a pretty flat mattress though, so that 'danger' isn't too dangerous.
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We never took the pillows or blankets out of bed. How on earth could anyone sleep without pillows and blankets?!? DS and I usually sleep alone since DH works graveyard shift and sleeps during the day, so when he was small I just had my own pillow in bed and kept the duvet on my side of the bed, and DS laid on the other side swaddled or underneath his own small blanket. When he got to about 1 year old I let him "graduate" to using a pillow and sharing the duvet with me. There's been a few times where I've woken up and it's been over his face, and I panic, but it obviously didn't smother him, and it never smothered DH either who sometimes sleeps with it over his face too.
I've totally let DS sleep on his tummy too. And we took forever to get a bed rail, so he fell out of bed numerous times. :