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Was talking to SIL today and groaning about how we are always exhausted because we are parents of two crappy sleepers, age 3.5 and almost 15 months. Plus the baby has been sick now for over a week, and thankfully is getting better!
She has two teenagers now. She said, the only thing that got her son to sleep through the night was to let him cry. She let him cry for a week and then he slept. Apparently he's slept ever since (at least that's how she made it sound). Now, this makes me very sad, not only is she kinda hard a$$'d, but her son was always sensitive and now I see a spirited child, he also had colic issues (probably food allergies) as a baby and screamed a lot (she claimed he wouldn't breastfeed, but I wasn't there). It makes me really sad to think that she did this to a sweet kid, to force him to sleep alone. What do people say around here, that compliance now isn't necessarily healthy for the kid later?
Anyway, I told her that I didn't think it was a good idea, she swore it worked, said my 3 year old should be sleeping all night now. I lied and told her CIO did not work for our kids (out of frustration, to avoid hurting someone in anger, we've let them cry, but only because our patience was gone and we had to step away to keep them safe), and that what "works" for other people's kids does not work for ours. And you know, even if we did try it, they are very persistent kids and it probably really wouldn't work!
Why do I feel like such a sh***y parent because I haven't let them CIO? Why do I get so stressed out when people try to convince me that its our own fault that they are not sleeping because we refuse to let them CIO, because that IS THE ONLY WAY TO GET THEM TO SLEEP?????
Sorry, just venting but I'm really irritated and more stressed now. I should not talk about our kids sleep issues (or our exhaustion issues) with other people...