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Dd has been a part-time co-sleeper. She starts off in her own bed, and comes into ours when she wakes at night. She ALWAYS wakes at night.
She's 4. She's tall. She's a wiggly sleeper who sort of "burrows" under/near you for maximum body contact. We have a queen sized bed. In addition, dd HATES being hot and kicks off the covers. But, since they're covering US, that means she's kicking them off us. The older she gets, the less we sleep. Dh has expressed a STRONG desire to have her out of our bed. And I agree that we'd sleep better if she were in her own bed. She's not nursing. I worry too about her night waking and not getting enough sleep. And I'm tired of being kicked/cold.
For the last week, we've been trying to return her to her own bed when she comes in. Last night, because I was too tired to remove her and dh didn't wake up when I pushed him, dd ended up spending from 3-whenever she woke up in our bed.
Here's my dilemma: The difference in her behavior between yesterday (after a night of being returned to her bed) and today (after sleeping with us) is pretty phenomenal. I don't know if it's because she got more sleep or because she was co-sleeping. Yesterday she was cranky and whiny and not able to entertain herself at all. Today she's been happily playing without a single whine!
After 4 years of less than optimal sleep, we are ready to get our bed back. But.... now I'm not so sure.
Here's what I know we can't do:
We can't get a bigger bed (our bedroom isn't big enough).
I can't move into dd's bed (it's a toddler bed and I'm fat).
We don't have another room/bed for dh to move to.
I don't want to not sleep with dh.
Are there options we haven't thought about?
Lynn, academic, wife, WOHM to T (4/01) and M (5/04)