Thanks for the suggestions. I don't think I can do the sleep lady, too much crying. Here is my situation, I'll take any suggestions.
My dd was colic for 3 months, NOTHING helped. We tried everything - rocking, holding, nursing, acidopholus, car ride, stroller ride, swing, you name it. We basically waited until the crying stopped around midnight, and she nursed to sleep. Colic ended at 3 months, from about that point until about 5 months she would not sleep unless I was in the bed with her. Needless to say I was in bed by 7, my DH brought me dinner in bed so I could eat.
From about 5 months on I nurse her to sleep, put her in the crib, and I try to get some things done, until we go to bed. She wakes up anywhere between 20 minutes to 1 hour. I just go up and down the stairs until I've had enough and then go to bed with her. I go through multiple attemps to get her to sleep, we have a routine - lullubies and bath. Some nights when she won't sleep I just bring her down stairs because it's easier than trying to cajole her to sleep and just getting frustrated. Once asleep she wakes up about every hour, on a good night every 2 hours. I usually nurse her back to sleep, but am trying to wait to see if she can get herself to sleep. Have tried no cry sleep solution, still working on the removal technique - she still roots like mad.
Naps are tricky - on a good day she will nurse down, sometimes I go for car rides or a walk in the Ergo. She naps for about 30 minutes.
DH thinks she will grow out of it, I'm worried he might be wrong. What about all the books that say one must learn how to put themselves to sleep?