Not with casual friends. I do share with my close friends, but they have children who are considerably older, so there's no element of 'competition'. Mostly, I reserve these things for close family.
When it becomes obvious that your daughter is ahead physically (so, if she walks at 7-8 months), then I would make a joke of it - "yeah, we're going to sign her up for the WNBA as soon as we can!" or smile sweetly and say "well, all kids do things at their own rate. Her physical development sure has surprised me!"
With friends, I try to share milestone-type-facts only as necessary to make genuinely interesting stories make sense. Honestly, milestone-talk is pretty darn boring unless one has a really special interest in the child. And if someone asks, I try to keep my answer short & sweet and, if possible, funny, because most of the time people are only asking to be polite, not because they really care whether the kiddo is doing xyz yet.
Honestly, by the time DD was one or so, I had already forgotten what was normal for the vast majority of baby milestones. So, people could talk about what their babies were doing until the cows came home and it didn't mean a thing to me unless they put it in context.
Not unless they bring it up, with anyone with a child the same age. But with the grandparents, constantly! They love to hear that stuff and brag about whatever little special things about their grandchild.
Generally, no. It rarely goes well. I answer questions honestly if asked, but that is mostly from strangers, who are confused by DS's advanced vocabulary, ability to read, generally mature posture and shape versus his obviously tiny size (he's in the zero percentile for weightand 30 percentile for hieght, so he he is smaller than your average 3 yo.)
At somepoint though, you might meet a freind who's child is precocious like yours. We have a little girl we hang out with and go on playdates with that we met in DS's music class. She is more interested in math, where DS is more into reading, but the over all asychrony is there, and we can relax around them and be ourselves more.
I have a small subset of friends that are welcoming to let me discuss what's going on with us. But it's a very small circle of friends.
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